While I don't really use the MBTI to guide my life as a whole, it's definitely given me a new perspective on a lot of things.
Before learning about it, there were many traits and beliefs that I had (and still have) that I felt were overall universally important. I felt like everyone should value them in some way, shape and form. When people didn't, I felt like they had a flawed mentality due to either their upbringing or personal choices.
By learning about the MBTI, I've learned more about how others can be successful and important by utilizing other traits, ones that I don't have. I've learned that certain traits come easier to me and I use them to be successful and helpful to others, but that other people can use different traits to do the same thing.
But where I'm struggling is finding balance between how universal my own particular traits should be.
For example, certain things I've always valued are working hard (even when things are difficult), being responsible, and making efforts to work with others, even if that means making small sacrifices and compromises.
Certainly to some degree these ideas can be related to my own type as an ISFJ. But I also don't think that this means they aren't important in some way, shape or form to everyone.
So where I keep getting stuck is knowing how and in what way I should value these things in other people.
On one hand, I don't want to use their type as an excuse for them not doing these things. One classic example is the idea that someone being a perceiver doesn't give them an excuse to be late to appointments.
On the other hand, though, I don't want to assume that things that come more easily to me come just as easily to others. I want to hold people up to certain expectations, but I also want to be understanding that some of these things may not come naturally to them due to their types.
So I'm caught half-way between just completely ignoring type and holding people up to certain standards, and using their type to understand that individually they have different ways of doing things.
I don't really know what I'm saying with this thread, I just felt the need to express this and couldn't think of another way to do it. I know it's going to vary from person to person and situation to situation, but if anyone could offer any thoughts I think I'd find it helpful.