Again, I know types are very related to the cognitive functions rather than just the four letters, but I still see a lot of connections and commonalities across people of the four preferences.
I still have a hard time exactly wording or figuring out the differences between thinkers and feelers, and there have been some interesting discussions about this recently.
I've heard two things about thinkers vs. feelers, both which are related but not exactly the same thing. The first is that feelers tend to use emotions to make decisions, whereas thinkers use logic. The second is that feelers put the focus on personal relationships before objective logic when making decisions, whereas thinkers do the opposite.
It seems like most people think the second one is the more accurate one. For example, I think a thinker and a feeler can be just as likely to trust their emotions in a moment...the more logical decision may be to exercise properly, the emotional decision may be to be lazy. This can be true of all 16 types.
Nonetheless, even when using the second definition, there are still a lot of these situations where a person may ask themselves: "Do I trust my heart or do I trust my head?" I think most of the time when we ask ourselves that question, we're referring to a situation involving other people, not just our own individual choices.
So I'm curious to hear exactly how feelers believe they use their logic. Obviously feelers are capable of using logic. Certainly there are situations where logic coincides very well with feelings as well. But when the two are at odds, there certainly are going to be differences between feelers and thinkers as well, and I'd like to hear how feelers feel about their logic. Thinkers are certainly welcome to chime in too, but I think hearing it firsthand from feelers gives some more personal insight.
For me, I think I usually tend to remember the situations where I chose my heart and I usually feel good about them and that they were the right decision. This may be my own biased memory, it's hard to say...perhaps there's more of a balance, I just don't remember it that way.
I guess it's just the decisions where I've hurt people stick with me, and stick out in my mind, much more than the ones where I made a faulty logical choice.
The other thing that kills me sometimes is that sometimes I'll make the more logical choice at the time, but I didn't have all of the facts. I later realize that if I had just trusted my heart, then the information I didn't know would have shown why it was the right choice.
At the same time though, I don't ignore my logic either. It's obviously important, and I hate the feeling of being stupid, or closed-minded, or just stubborn to listening to other people's objective perspectives. It's just that I honestly can't do it all of the time without feeling horrible. Sometimes my emotions just overtake me and dictate my life...it's a constant force.
That's all I'll say for now...I may be inspired to add more when I heard about it more from other feelers.