[Midnight Runner]

I have really only had 3 truly traumatic events in my life (all of which were deaths of loved ones) and I have dealt with all three of them pretty much the same way. I would put off dealing with the pain until I was alone (usually that night when I went to bed) and then I would cry it out. With my grandmother's death I ended up taking a week or so for it to really hit me, but otherwise it was the same.

[Mutatio NOmenis]

Well honestly, I don't need justification from you. I have a diagnosis from a qualified professional thank you. I suffered severe traumatic events in my youth. Trust me, it was violent enough. I've been pretty open about those events on this forum. It's the reason I can relate to many individuals and can have empathy.

Btw, thank you for giving me input at those times when I was feeling down and posted. You've done it a few times. I was hoping your words were stemming from empathy as well, and not sympathy.

Wow, i do not wish to have to live in your mind. Sorry for asking. I get my words from empathy and sympathy. I am good at understanding other peoples' pain, and I have been suffering from abuse for most of my life. I know how it is to perpetually be the acceptable target. Being the short one sucks. The taller guys can be absolute dicks and only I get shit for trying to progress the project instead of talking about MW2 attachments.

[nallyha]

Scream it off, immediately as negative thoughts come to my mind, or sing a funny song. I don't think i should 'kill myself' over the very thing that make us humans humans- imperfection!!

[Kitten]

The best thing I can do is talk about it with someone I'm incredibly close with and trust completely... which means, 99% of the time, my INFP significant other. <3 And during the 1% of the time when I talk about it with someone who isn't that guy, it's also been some other INFP.. coincidence? o.o But yeah. It's too painful just keeping everything locked up inside myself. I have to let it out to at least one other person. This is a necessary part in trying to heal myself.

...But other than that, I usually keep it inside of me, frequently look back on it and reflect about it, but try to do everything possible to move on. And so I do.. life goes on. :3

I definitely never try to FORGET what happened, though. Because, whether they're positive or negative, my memories are precious to me... and the tragedies and mistakes from my past have helped me become who I am today. ^^

[Slicknick9283]

How the hell did you get PTSD? If it's justified (war, violent rape, murder, something horrible), then it's justified. If it's something like getting shaken down for money or watching 9/11 on the news, then that's just plain pathetic and I'll be around to help you (the former means real help. The latter means being readjusted to see those things as random and that they happened without cause. However,in the case of something truly weak (like surgery or a small car crash, a bullet to your brain is what I deliver.)

You know, I really hope that the surgery and car crash references weren't referring to and deameaning some previous posts. If so, clearly this is a case where you think you know and you don't. Watching someone you care about get smashed by a truck, plastered to it, thrown 30 feet and then ran over is pretty traumatic. Getting surgery that could debilitate you and have long term lasting effects is traumatic. Even if you didn't mean it that way your post was pretty effin' offensive, especially because you used examples of things that other people said. Way to go dude, I'm sure you experienced a lot of crazy stuff and you know all about it.

Perception is reality. You can't look at something and judge it by your personal standards, and you can't universalize your standards. To an extent I agree that people can over-react about trivial stuff. But what may be trivial to you might not be to the next person. Just because you went through a lot and now you feel equipped to deal with all life's pitfalls means the next person is.

Whatever, I'm sure you aren't that completely tactless, and you probably didn't say that to be rude... but really, a bullet to your brain. Yea, sarcasm. I get it. Still kinda made you sound like an ass. Just sayin'.

[Mutatio NOmenis]

You know, I really hope that the surgery and car crash references weren't referring to and deameaning some previous posts.

Not really. I am referring to people who really did get messed up by something which about 88% of the normal population could brush off without a problem.

If so, clearly this is a case where you think you know and you don't. Watching someone you care about get smashed by a truck, plastered to it, thrown 30 feet and then ran over is pretty traumatic.

That's different from what I'm referring to. I'm talking about a person in my neighborhood who has PTSD because she was driving, hit a patch of ice, and hit a pole going at about 25 M.P.H. in a subcompact.

Getting surgery that could debilitate you and have long term lasting effects is traumatic.

Surgery itself is scary. Still, I've had surgeries that fit that description several times, and I don't have PTSD.

Even if you didn't mean it that way your post was pretty effin' offensive, especially because you used examples of things that other people said.

Did not read the thread. Thankfully, the P.C. community decided to put up with my shit.

Way to go dude, I'm sure you experienced a lot of crazy stuff and you know all about it.

Does being 11 and being shaken from your sleep to given a death threat by a knife weilding sociopath count as crazy?

Perception is reality. You can't look at something and judge it by your personal standards, and you can't universalize your standards.

Doesn't stop others from doing it to me. Get used to it.

To an extent I agree that people can over-react about trivial stuff. But what may be trivial to you might not be to the next person.

Just like I tried to kill myself over a grading fluke in my first physics final.

Just because you went through a lot and now you feel equipped to deal with all life's pitfalls means the next person is.

I'm not equiped for everything. I just happen to be in some ways much tougher than the average person.

Whatever, I'm sure you aren't that completely tactless, and you probably didn't say that to be rude...

I'm didn't read the thread.

but really, a bullet to your brain. Yea, sarcasm. I get it. Still kinda made you sound like an ass. Just sayin'.

And you're making me out to look like a monster. *Reads the post your quoted* I do sound like a monster.

[pinkrasputin]

I'm not equiped for everything. I just happen to be in some ways much tougher than the average person.

Well I keep hearing from professionals that I am stronger than many, after what I've survived. So I am not sure if my traumas can beat up your traumas, but we could arm wrestle if you'd like?

Or we could stop comparing and respect another person for having overcome their ordeals or who has enough guts to share.

[wblack]

I put myself in denial for a while, then I finally face it and move on...

Although, I still will break down every once in a while when I dwell on past trauma for too long. I guess thats evident I don't truly get over things.

[Slicknick9283]

Not really. I am referring to people who really did get messed up by something which about 88% of the normal population could brush off without a problem.



That's different from what I'm referring to. I'm talking about a person in my neighborhood who has PTSD because she was driving, hit a patch of ice, and hit a pole going at about 25 M.P.H. in a subcompact.


Surgery itself is scary. Still, I've had surgeries that fit that description several times, and I don't have PTSD.


Did not read the thread. Thankfully, the P.C. community decided to put up with my shit.



Does being 11 and being shaken from your sleep to given a death threat by a knife weilding sociopath count as crazy?


Doesn't stop others from doing it to me. Get used to it.


Just like I tried to kill myself over a grading fluke in my first physics final.


I'm not equiped for everything. I just happen to be in some ways much tougher than the average person.


I'm didn't read the thread.


And you're making me out to look like a monster. *Reads the post your quoted* I do sound like a monster.

Ok I dunno if I got my point across. I will try again. People don't get PSTD over something trivial. You can experience trauma without getting PSTD. The question isn't whether or not it's JUSTIFIED, especially in your eyes.

Also, I need clarification, because if you tried to kill yourself over a grade, then you have no right to say anyone else's perceptions are wrong. And if you say that you do it because others do it, then you are not only a follower but worse than them. Perpetuating stupid judgements is only gonna make the world more intolerable than it is, but whatewver makes you feel better.

You're eleven. You have plenty of years ahead to either rise above the crap in your life or perpetuate it and inflict it back on the world.

[Jinxies]

I want to know how differnt personality types handle trauma. As an INFP I get all emotioanl while trying to work through the emotions of the issue. If something physical is borken like a car is carshed I can handle that with no problems getting that fixed or replaced. But it takes a very long time for my emotions to get back to normal. What about other people? How do you deal with trauma and what type are you?

I'm an ENTJ. I tend to handle things as they come. When I got divorced from my first husband, I'd get upset and cry from time to time. Otherwise, I was calm and cool for the most part. I did smoke for a couple of weeks when the anxiety and trauma from the separation was happening.

When my second husband died, my first action was to go to urgent care and get some valium. My next step was to make an appointment with my doctor and a psychiatrist. I went to my doctor and went on a short-term anti-depressant and she gave me some stronger anxiety medicines. I have an underlying anxiety disorder, per the psychiatrist. I had some difficulty sleeping so had some medicine for a week or two to help with that. I cried the day I found his remains and then I cried one other day. So... two crying spells over a death. I was on the anti-depressants for 2 or 3 months then decided to stop. Was on anti-anxiety meds for a month. Had some sleeping medication for a couple of weeks. I also decided that I no longer needed to see the therapist since I had worked through my issues. I can work very quickly on determining how I feel and how I'll process something.

I took a couple of days off of work due to the situation, I think maybe 6 spread over a couple of weeks. I have a very important project to complete and focusing on that was much healthier for me.

Things like crunching the fender of my car... I could care less, that stuff happens and I don't care what my car looks like.

so... that's how I handle trauma... sometimes I just need some chocolate or a few beers and I'm right as rain.

As far as personal and physical pain... I've suffered massive migraines since I was 12. I've seen a neurologist since I was 20. I have to take daily preventatives to keep them at bay and then triptans for onset. I used to have them 3 or 4 times a month so severely I'd have to go to the hospital. I suffered from aura and non-aura migraines, cluster migraines, etc. I also develop aphasia which is a stroke-like symptom so I periodically have to get tested for TIA's.

I was severely injured as a child by another boy, my back was damaged and my right arm was paralyzed, finally, I was able to move my arm again but have permanent nerve damage in my spine. I have DDD, arthritis, bulging discs and often get annular ligament tears on my discs. I know much about personal pain. I don't even consider it traumatic anymore. Can't let it lead me. I just deal with it and keep on going.