Is it possible for a thinker (with a strong feeler side) to see themselves as a feeler in some situations? The guy I am seeing, for now quite a few months, is pretty into me..and he knows that I am a strong feeler. I am quite sure he is a thinker, based on the way he talks,the vibe I get, on the stories he tells me about people and how he reacts, and the fact that he uses logic to make most decisions.
However-the thing that leads me off, is that he portrays himself as much more feeling to me than he actually is. I would ask questions about this topic-ie. I have the Do What You Are book, and for the fun of it, I bought the book one night and asked him the questions..he pretty much answered
-Stepping forward and considering effects of actions on other -over- applying impersonal analysis to problems
-Values empathy and harmony, sees the execption to the rule-over-values logic justice anf fairnedd, one standard for all
-Naturally likes to please others and shows appreciation-over-naturally sees flaws and is critical
-Considers it important to be tactful and truthful-ovr-more important to be truthful than tactful
-Believes people have a right to feel how they want-over-feelings are vald only if logical
So he pretty much answered all in feeling, and he also tells me he is emotional and feels things strongly, which can lead me to thinking a feeler, and -he does seem more "feely" in the relationship, in terms of giving things to me, complimenting me, and trying to help me if I need advice. He also claims to be a heart person (though I get he doesnt fully understand what emotional, and heart centered really means, it just sounds good to him since he knows i like that.)
The reason I am thinking that hes a thinker though, is because he just seems more logical, thought out, as a person-he uses logic over emotions by default (though when he is with me, he uses somewhat more emotion), doesnt trust negative emotions-is uncomfortable feeling them , and weighs the pros and cons of his decisions and anlayzes them-what makes more sense. He also needs more information to make decisions and doesnt go in the feelings of the moment. He comes down a bit hard on people if they have a different opinion, and while he can be intuned to others emotional state-that will only be if its fairly obvious..sometimes he hurts people without realizing and wont apologize so quickly, and he doesnt get hurt that easily. He also has a hard time answering questions straight-he needs more information or detail, and even then it depends. He seems OK with conflict and even starting it with debates, but he claims he doesnt like conflict if it can be avoided.
Can he be a Thinker with a strong feeling preference or a Feeler with a strong Thinking preference?