About Extraverted Feeling

[HandiAce]

If you use extraverted feeling, does that mean that you also understand how people think or do you react to people's emotions now matter what their reasoning?

I'm asking this because I know ironically as a child, I had trouble communicating and empathizing with other people, but would be extremely hurt when someone talked to me in an angry tone.

[Grey]

Not really. I would think the perceiving function would be the one responsible for figuring out why someone reacts in a certain way.

[fiasco]

My ISFJ mother uses her Fe primarily to maintain social harmony and make sure everyone is playing nice. She doesn't like to hear rude words or see disrespectful behavior, essentially. It's pretty amazing seeing her social skills in action... She just connects happily and harmoniously with just about anyone. She does also have a talent for knowing how people are feeling, foreseeing emotionally harmful things, and dealing with other people's emotions with a ridiculous amount of patience, though. I don't know if that is still exclusively Fe, because she has an equally high amount of Fi.

[decided]

I wrote a paragraph about my understanding of Fe, then realised I could copy/pasta a better description.

Originally Posted by cognitiveprocesses.com

The process of extraverted Feeling often involves a desire to connect with (or disconnect from) others and is often evidenced by expressions of warmth (or displeasure) and self-disclosure. The “social graces,” such as being polite, being nice, being friendly, being considerate, and being appropriate, often revolve around the process of extraverted Feeling. Keeping in touch, laughing at jokes when others laugh, and trying to get people to act kindly to each other also involve extraverted Feeling. Using this process, we respond according to expressed or even unexpressed wants and needs of others. We may ask people what they want or need or self-disclose to prompt them to talk more about themselves. This often sparks conversation and lets us know more about them so we can better adjust our behavior to them. Often with this process, we feel pulled to be responsible and take care of others’ feelings, sometimes to the point of not separating our feelings from theirs. We may recognize and adhere to shared values, feelings, and social norms to get along.

I hope that helps.

[MisterNi]

Coming from a person with tert. Fe is very specific. It goes, Ne --> Ti --> Fe meaning I first perceive something about a person using Ne and think of a logical solution to the perceived problem with Ti then I try to fix the situation on a human level with Fe to smooth over ruffled feathers. There are theories of development within MBTI that says an individual develops their functions as they grow older...so that means I still need to develop my inferior Si. So you could say I'm still immature in a way.

[Karen]

My ESFJ sister and ENFJ brother are alike in that they are both very focused on relationships and rules for how people are supposed to interact with each other. When the rules are broken, the ESFJ will go on and on about how it's not supposed to be that way and the ENFJ will try to teach the person how and why the rules should be followed. I'm a frustration to both of them.

Neither of them seem overly interested in how or why people think the way they do, in fact I'm better than they are at understanding people's motives, but if I need help with the outward aspects of human relationships, they're the first ones I call.

[HandiAce]

Ha, I can identify with that. I used to get angry at people when they would say swear words. I think I used to get picked on for trying to, in a way, enforce rules (sometimes not always addressed all the time) of fair ways for playing, language, etc. because kids thought it was funny to see my reaction when they broke them.

Then I'd get into trouble for hitting someone....

[TaylorS]

Originally Posted by decided

The process of extraverted Feeling often involves a desire to connect with (or disconnect from) others and is often evidenced by expressions of warmth (or displeasure) and self-disclosure. The “social graces,” such as being polite, being nice, being friendly, being considerate, and being appropriate, often revolve around the process of extraverted Feeling. Keeping in touch, laughing at jokes when others laugh, and trying to get people to act kindly to each other also involve extraverted Feeling. Using this process, we respond according to expressed or even unexpressed wants and needs of others. We may ask people what they want or need or self-disclose to prompt them to talk more about themselves. This often sparks conversation and lets us know more about them so we can better adjust our behavior to them. Often with this process, we feel pulled to be responsible and take care of others’ feelings, sometimes to the point of not separating our feelings from theirs. We may recognize and adhere to shared values, feelings, and social norms to get along.

This sounds very much like me. Rude, crude jokes is a good way to REALLY piss me off.