All right, so it's always been conventional MBTI wisdom that introversion doesn't mean someone is shy and quiet, and extraversion doesn't mean someone is talkative.
However, I think that a lot of times this is the case. So I wanted to explore what makes the exception occur, and for this thread I want to focus on introverts.
I particularly want to focus on introverts that are talkative in group settings. I say this because for me, I can be very talkative in the right setting, and usually it's one-on-one. However, once I get into a larger group setting, particularly with people I don't know, I tend to become very shy and quiet.
So here's how it works for me. When I'm talking with someone one-on-one, as long as I find the person interesting and we can get a flow going, I can talk with them for hours on end. I can even get kind of excited and enthusiastic, sometimes to the point where I can't wait to speak. That's where I have some fantastic conversations.
Now, there have been times when the same thing has happened with more than one person. However, it's almost always only a few more people...either we're in group of 3, 4 or maybe 5. I think when it gets to 6, however, it's very unlikely that I will naturally be very talkative.
It's also extremely important for me to be comfortable with people. Even in a group of 4, if I'm not comfortable and familiar with the other three people, I'll be very quiet.
For me, the reasoning works like this; I really can only focus on one person at a time when we're talking about a topic. I choose my words carefully, and they're almost always aimed at one person. I do this because I don't want to bore people or say something awkward; the more people there are, the greater a chance at least one of them won't like what I have to say.
So for me, my Si and Fe both play into why I'm so shy and quiet in groups.
This happened recently, and I noticed that in a group of about 10 people, most of the people in the group were talking a lot and joking around with no apparent apprehension. I wasn't dead silent, but I usually would only chime in every now and then with one quick little line. I wasn't telling long stories or making quick jokes like most people.
(A big part of it also probably had to deal with the fact that I was the only one in the group that hadn't been drinking, but I don't think that was the sole reason.)
So I was curious about whether or not these people being so talkative were introverts or extraverts. If any are introverts, I was curious to hear what made them more talkative when I'm not.
So if you're an introvert who has no problem being talkative in group settings, I'd like to hear kind of what goes through your mind and why you feel you are the way you are.