I'll get straight to the point:I know a guy who is an ENFJ.An ENFJ with a strong confusion about his personality type and is making me(an ENTJ) and a close friend of mine(an INTP) going crazy.I don't know if Myers and Briggs where drunk when writing down the ENFJ profile, but this guy is actually the exact opposite of what the MBTI theory says about him.
1)He is not a natural charming leaders.
You like him until you know him well.Indecisive, messy, oppressive and a pathological liar.The latter characteristic is by far the more annoying - especially because he KNOWS HE IS LYING, HE KNOWS YOU KNOW IT but he keeps doing it.Plus...this guy is completely irrational and not illogical(e.g. We were working on a project for a house.He drew a house where NO TOILET was present.He said people don't need them + they can use the neighbor's one)
2)He hasn't great organizational skills
Nope.Not really.He always find the WORST way to solve a problem(The most expensive, harshest, time wasting, etc).Each time he takes care of the org is always a COMPLETE MESS.Literally ALWAYS!
3)He doesn't care for other people.
He nonchalantly ignores his family & friends needs/requests and, when he does something extremely stupid and irresponsible, it is often somebody else who "pays the bil"l.And ,believe me, he doesn't give and f. about it.
4)He doesn't give as much as he can to anyone
He always said he does everything for his children and family.Then he Inherited the family assets and told his children they wouldn't get anything.BTW:He often threatens them and blackmails them(If they don't do what he wants, he will make sure they will not inherit anything even after his death).And I don't even tell you who he treats his coworkers and friends.
5)He is unable to take criticism well.Neither if it is constructive and well argued.
How is that possible that an ENFJ is such an a$$hat?