[TheChronicler]

Alright. I realize that I'm new here and that people MAY get annoyed by this question... Well, I don't really know but you know what, I'm going to post it anyway!

Okay. Well, I'm head over heels for this boy. COMPLETELY head over heels. However, there's this problem... Nobody understands the kid. Not even me, an ENFP. Nor can my ENFP friend. Nor can my other friends. Anyway, I think he might be an ISTP however I have no idea if he's a P or a J because I have no clue whether he's unorganized or organized..

Nevertheless, all you people are pretty experienced in figuring people out. I mean, this website is all about figuring out yourself and with that, figuring out other people since there's all these conversations going on about different personality types and stuff. And so, therefore, I conclude that you guys might be able to help me with this incredibly complicated situation. (: So please help.

Alright.

I like this guy and this is what I know about his personality:
-pessimistic
-EXTREMELY antisocial - he wouldn't even go travel to Ohio with his parents and brothers to visit his aunt and uncle and cousins, he stayed home alone instead
-doesn't really have any friends
-says he hates everyone and everything
-off-beat sense of humor
-really playful at times
-kind of awkward around large groups of people

Yeah. So here's what happened between the two of us.

I had this one computer class at the beginning of the year with him and in that class we talked a LOT and he teased me and even got a little touchy-feely at this one time. AND OHMYGOODNESS. He stared at me so much in the hallways and basically everywhere he saw me, and it wasn't like that ISTP death stare people talk about, he just looked at me in this really gentle, soft-ish way? I don't know. He just really seemed like he liked me through that stare and through the things he did. However, when I asked him if he was going to homecoming, he said he was already going with someone... though he wasn't. And he ended up going in MY group to homecoming... which was just a little awkward :P

Anyway, after the homecoming situation and once that class was finished, we lost touch. However, on my birthday (which was right after the class ended) I asked his twin brother to ask him to go to the movies and he said no. At the movies though, his twin brother gave me this note from him that said one of our inside jokes. He also said that his brother said "happy birthday."

After that happened, at New Year's Eve his twin brother was at a party with me and said that he says "hi" (my crush, I mean.)



After that happened, I had a couple of conversations with him and in those conversations it seemed like he liked me. I even asked him to go to the movies once...which didn't turn out too well. At first, when I asked him, he smiled and blushed and said he'd go, but later when my friend asked him if he was still going or not, he said he wasn't because he didn't want to go anymore.

After that happened, we still had a couple more conversations and at the end of the year I befriended his twin brother. I asked his twin to ask him if he hated me because he never wants to hangout with me and all, and he said that he did hate me.

But then at the end of the year I hugged his twin brother and afterwards his twin said "go hug my brother" and I said "fine.." and then the twin opened the car door and said "go hug her" (indicating me) and he just got out without any fuss and hugged me. Then he kind of smiled and told me to have a nice summer.

Then stuff gets even more complicated... I asked him and his brother to the movies and he said he didn't want to go. His twin went of course, though. Then just the other day I texted him and he didn't respond back. Last night I texted him though and he did respond. I said "this is random but... do you hate me?" he said "at this moment yes, why? you woke me up." I said "Oh well good night then, have some nice dreams" he said "I hate dreams" and then I said something else and he said "Night" yeah but his brother said he probably wasn't sleeping because texts don't normally wake people up. Plus I think he kind of stays up sort of late and it was only around 12:00AM. I don't get why he'd say that if he wasn't sleeping though... Maybe so he could give me an uncertain response: At this moment I hate you, why? You woke me up. <---It doesn't really tell me whether he truly hates me or not.

Oh by the way, whenever I see him he still stares at me a lot. Throughout the whole year, he stared at me, actually.

Anyway, remember he's very very very antisocial and socially awkward so of course if he liked me, he would show different signs than your average outgoing guy. So yeah. I don't understand what his personality type is or whether he likes me or not. Could someone please help? (:

By the way, this was really awfully written. My apologies, I'm just sort of in a rush at the moment. Normally my writing is much nicer(I actually want to be an author!). But yeah, that's not the point. Please just answer the question :D ! Like, I'm begging you here. I don't get this kid. At all.

[cue5c]

I can't tell you his type, although figuring out if he's a J or a P because of how organized he is is really misguided. But you don't really want to know his type. The reason you do is so you can figure him out and put yourself in good favor with him. If you really want things to work out between you, ignore him. Stop contacting him. If you're noticing he's staring at you then you're clearly looking at him. Don't.

It's human nature to want what you can't have, but it's deeper than that. People want what they can't have because they know that person is likely to be blindsided by feelings and appreciate them or dislike them based on who they really are. Believe it or not one day you won't have these intense feelings for him and he'll want to know that the person who appears then is someone who will still appreciate him. Although that's assuming he even wants someone. You're coming off needy in this post and to someone who likes being alone that's not exactly a selling point. I'm not saying you don't have a chance, just that you can't change yourself to be with someone and expect positive results.

[PSchall]

Based on his reactions, he probably likes you. The body language says most of it. However, I wouldn't worry about his responses so much. I know that if I like someone, I tend to try to not be that obvious about it. I also notice that I tend to look for a "good moment" in order to say I like her, usually when it's just a one-on-one situation. Of course, I don't know if this helps, I haven't had much luck in this area.

Good luck finding out.