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I am ISFP and was with an ESFJ for 6 years. This is supposed to be one of the "perfect" matches in at least one theory, and I'm sure it would be if one of the partners didn't have an untreated mental illness that led to outbursts of rage.
His good side and periods of mental health were pretty much perfect for me.
What is the logic behind your groupings, BTW?
These relations follow socionics inter-type relations. Relationship chart.
A is identical, B is quasi-identical, C is kindred, D is extinguishment, E is semi-duality, F is duality, G is conflicting, H is mirage, I is activity, J is mirror, K is business, L is super-ego, M is benefit, N is supervision. Your relationship with ESFJ would fall under extinguishment.
Type J for the win :]
I definitely agree with you. To me, it's one thing to not take into account relationships that are long-distance to where they have never met in person or never spent lengths of time together to truly get to know each other & connect psychologically on a deep level, but it isn't really fair to those who have already spent that time together & connected in such a way but have been separated AFTERWARDS. That's my input anyway. :-)
Type N: ISFP and ESTP both type 7
opposite artisans, complimenting each other. always on adventures and we never get bored!
On another note, this is just a poll on the internet - it's not a bill to take away your civil rights :) It's surprising how much sentiment there is concerning unfairness. I hope you guys are just as involved in your local community politics and social service where this kind of discussion would really matter.
My 1st boyfriend is an ISFJ... We were together for 3 years. My longest relationship. I broke it off because i was bored to be honest and wanted to try new things. But we got along super well, almost too well. We fought hardly at all. Even though it was my 1st relationship. We never got on each others bad side.
I wonder if these poll results would be different if the question was "happiest" instead of "longest".