[hopeguidesme]

So there is this guy who I know from uni, we have been friends for about 2 years now. He is an ISTP. What I would love to know from you other ISTP guys out there is: What is going through this guys brain?? I have my suspicions but I am too conflicted to be sure :D

So pretty much, he says I am one of the only people he thinks is worth while really getting to know. He thinks we have chemistry (and we do have crazy chemistry). He recently said he was angry at me and himself because he couldn't stop thinking about me. And he always stares at me like he is trying to have a moment. He says I make him more tolerant and I make him want to give me a chance. He thinks I am good looking. The other day I hanged out with him, we spent ALL day (8am-4pm) lying on his bed, talking or sometimes not. He likes the fact we have similar interests and he finds me interesting to talk to and I ask him questions he never would have thought of and likes the challenge. He offers to take me tramping and on this sailing boat one day. He tries to teach me more about things he thinks I am interested in. He tells me about things he has seen that he says he thought at the time I would love etc..
But on the other hand he points out all the flaws in my personality (some justified others I believe not), he sometimes acts like I am not there almost, but I know he knows I am there. Hot and cold. He said if he could sum me up in three words to someone he would say crazy, over analytical and hot. He often calles me ridiculous and thinks I am a bit nuts by the looks of things.



Call me crazy and over analytical but does he just think I am hot and really just wants kind of friends with beniefts relationship or does this guy actually like me deep down?

[Aquc]

He loves you. I was in a situation like his, and trust me that is not lust. We do have a habit of pointing out flaws in people, primarily because we like to know our own in order to improve. As for the hot and cold, that is pure ISTP. Check out any of the other relationship threads and there will be issues on that. Just trust him to let you know (in subtle ways) when he needs his space, and hopefully it shouldn't be an issue.
Also, I don't know about him but crazy is a massive complement coming from me.

[hopeguidesme]

Also, I don't know about him but crazy is a massive complement coming from me.

Haha how do you translate that into a massive complement? How is crazy a good thing?

[Aquc]

Because not being crazy is boring. And ISTPs really don't do boring.

[MyBigToe]

Are you sure you're not enfp? Your name seems very enfp to me, as well as your whole story.

Anyway, yes I agree, it sounds like he cares about you a lot. I've experienced the hot and cold thing myself. It can be very confusing, but it's just their way. They can say, what seems like, the most horrible insulting things, but if you let them talk long enough, they finish it off with something really beautiful. And what sounded at first like an insult, was just their way of saying "I got your back" to prevent you from making any further blunders.

Keep that in mind the next time he has a go at you.

[BlueG]

Are you sure you're not enfp? Your name seems very enfp to me, as well as your whole story.

You should run very, very far away from typing people based on their username.

[Aquc]

I may be being daft here (no seriously, its a large possability), but doesn't the fact that she may be being over-analytical kind of reinforce the introvert part?

[r00bic0n]

I may be being daft here (no seriously, its a large possability), but doesn't the fact that she may be being over-analytical kind of reinforce the introvert part?

Don't know about that...I'm one of the most overly-analytical people I know (about a billion people have told me I think too much).
I would classify myself as an ambivert. But slightly leaning towards Extroversion as I find it easy to initiate social situations, I definitely get depressed and start getting crazy if I don't see people in over a week, and I require the input of others to keep my development going. But everything that I perceive gets thoroughly analysed, constantly.

I think the idea that Extroverts are not introspective is one of *the biggest* misconceptions there is.

[Aquc]

Don't know about that...I'm one of the most overly-analytical people I know (about a billion people have told me I think too much).
I would classify myself as an ambivert. But slightly leaning towards Extroversion as I find it easy to initiate social situations, I definitely get depressed and start getting crazy if I don't see people in over a week, and I require the input of others to keep my development going. But everything that I perceive gets thoroughly analysed, constantly.

I think the idea that Extroverts are not introspective is one of *the biggest* misconceptions there is.

Fair enough. Like I said at the start I wasn't sure whether or not that was true. I guess I was biased as I am very strongly an introvert and over analyse pretty much everything. I would definately be interested to hear if there are any strong extraverts who also over analyse, purely to see if my hypothesis has any weight to it at all. Might as well learn from my mistake.

[MyBigToe]

You should run very, very far away from typing people based on their username.

No, it was the general vibe I got from her post. The username was just another clue.