i know every one is different but that why this is called advice :P
i met this girl about 7 years ago from a mutual friend, she was a senior in HS and i had just graduated the year before. we hit it off instantly!! just "something" some kinda spark.. its years later when i asked her what was it about me that made her want to invest effort into maintaining a friendship all these years.
her response: "see for me i thought that you would be someone fun and interesting to hang out with someone that i know when i felt comfortable and let my guard down would be able to talk to about anything and not get bored which for me is hard to find."
i only brought this up because im an infj male(do i really need to say more lol) and just because my "powers" dont work on her... sometime it feels from the outside like shes indifferent and i told her that sometimes i will see her on FB chat and will hesitate to talk to her or ask her to do thing because sometimes i feel like "does she even want me around" so i asked her point blank and she said: "its everyone else i really dont care to talk to lol"
we had a good talk after that... a better understanding of eachother :) that was a year ago.
more recently tho... i asked her to be my date to my brothers wedding and meet my family (the first girl ive ever introduced to my family and i'll be 26 in may lol) that went great, she and my mother got along perfect(..almost too well lol) we later went to see a drive in movie and we were sitting in the back like normal, eating popcorn adding our own "MST3K" commentary to the movie lol (shes so quick..me not so much) she gets alil closer..i scoot alil closer, by the time i know it im laying on her chest and she has her arms around my shoulders and we're cuddling (it only took 7 years!!) and i feel her squeeze me slightly and let out a big sigh and i felt her... "melt" around me resting the side of her head on the back of mine. it was.... nice. we didnt say anything the rest of the movie, then it ended and i turned around, cupped her face and gave her a simple kiss on the lips.
we've never discussed that night but since then ive told her that i love her, the women shes become and still becoming (shes 24) and that no matter what, we'll still be friends but what surprised me was how willing she was to tell me she loves me back AND in front of other people..(cause in all the years ive known her.. shes not really the affectionate type lol) but it does make me wonder (with my own trust issues) if she says it cause she thinks its what i want to hear?
do other istps find it easy to say thos words? or will they say them to not hurt others feelings?