Sometimes but not always. I try not to make decisions when I'm angry but I change my mind regardless of whether I'm angry or calm when I make decisions. I'm angry most of the time, anyway.
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Sometimes but not always. I try not to make decisions when I'm angry but I change my mind regardless of whether I'm angry or calm when I make decisions. I'm angry most of the time, anyway.
When I am angry, I am angry for a good reason. So when I am angry and make a decision, I stand by it. It was right for me at the time, and I usually make correct decisions.
There has been three times in my life where I have been so enraged, I would have stabbed someone. My eyesight starts to funnel (pilot speak: 30% or more light loss.) I managed all three times to remove myself before I did something that I would regret.
Emotions don't factor into decisions, only reactions (for me). It's really hard to make an objective and correct decision when you're truly angry, or at least I've found it so.
I rarely do, but if on the off chance I do (usually its something I've been debating anyway and during anger might decide on) I'll stick by it. I dislike people who say shit when they are angry and don't mean it. In anger, my inhibition to give a damn might be lowered so I'll go ahead with the plan because I'm mad and don't care to consider how it will impact others. Since most emotions are highly selfish, I notice that I become very selfish when Im mad so I'll have no qualms about making decisions that only benefit me.
Though, let me add it depends on what/why I am angry and also what the decision being made is pertaining to (personal vs business).
Like @Falling Leaves said, the decisions made when mad make sense... when made and sometimes even later. I've gotten better at just not getting mad, mostly because it's a waste of time and it doesn't help my cause. If something or someone is irritating me (which is different than angering me) then I try to remove myself from the situation. If I can't remove myself, I tend to shut down.

Most of the time when I'm angry, I actually make the right decisions and end up leading with a Te I've never had. One time a friend of mine owed me some money and I called him up several times just to see where it was. He kept telling me to call him back after a few hours. I did, again and again. At the end he told me to wait outside my own house in the middle of a snowstorm so that he could give me the money then. I said no, called him back a few minutes later. He then told me to walk 15 minutes up a hill in the same (now slightly worse) snowstorm. That was when I got really angry, told him to come to my house and give me it there. To my surprise, he actually did. I got the money, I said sorry a few times and we're still friends. If I hadn't been angry, if I hadn't sounded angry, then I doubt I'd have got the money back. Still felt like a d*ck afterwards though.![]()
Is this some sort of "P" thing to deny our anger? Lol. I used to do that too until I was convicted while looking into my 9 gut-fix.
ISTP anger is intense and I they can get a little out of control in spite of themselves. It's like a snap. I have no problem walking away from it and not engaging. It actually makes me go cold. But that might have more to do with my own 9 fix.
Not until recently have I ever seen one make a permanent decision out of anger. I actually think they pride themselves in not doing that. And on this recent occasion where one did make a decision, I prompted it because I really wanted things finalized and doors shut. I sort of took advantage of it because I knew I had to for the benefit of both of us in the long run.
But my usual experience is that they will deny they are angry, even when its blatanly obvious to me they are. However, they are way different once they cool down so it's actually good they don't makes decisions when they are like this. I can relate to this as a perceiver- give me time away from you while I'm angry and I'll come back. They just have longer stretches but sometimes with more build up.
They are actually incredibly lovable creatures who can turn around, calm themselves down, and start fresh again. I think a large part of it has to do with their own inner drive to be reasonable and objective. Just my take.
I don't deny my anger.
For starters, it rarely happens. Anger is a spontaneous emotion. My emotions are anything but.
Secondly, I acknowledge (not deny) any emotions I experience and do root-cause identification. Then I release them.
Sometimes it takes a bit of doing to release an emotion.
Sometimes I'll choose to dwell on an emotion for a bit before I release it. But only if it's a pleasant one.
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