[superwoman]

I'm not sure what you want here.

I'm a possible istp so here are my thoughts.

1. What do you really want? If you are unhappy, why not go get a job that you like? Are you afraid of your parents or being homeless?

2. Why going back to school? You didn't mention what you want to study so it seems like you want to go back to school not because of passion. Rather, you just want to escape amd live in a bubble. School is an expensive way to be shielded.



3. I have the same situation as you. Chinese parents and family business and I have business degree. Obviously my parents want me to work for them but I wanted something of my own so I started my second company and is doing quite well. Iknow that business is not your thing so why don't you find something you lIke and do it?

4. Istp loves efficiency so your dad is probably tired of inefficiency when you are not working hard.

5. I don't know how other istp thinks but if I have a child, I won't care how much money he makes as long as he is doing something productive and not wasting his time away. I suspect your Relationship will improve when you can show that you are not a slacker and truly doing something he likes.



Hope this helps.

[lemonade]

Bear with it a bit. Your dad doesn't seem ISTP to me. But if he is one, he's probably gone through a lot in life that makes him so stubborn and against new ideas. And I understand why he dismisses MBTi. It's something he doesn't know, and therefore can't believe in until he sees it's applicable purpose (if he were an istp). So just bear with it. Give him half of you, and spend your other half on what you want to do. Maintaining some obligation to your origins is good, in case there are times you need your family. Your dad most likely has thought you're not very smart as you were growing up. Though your values clash, let him know you have different values, but don't try to convince him you're right. No one is right or wrong when it comes to preferences. Really, be patient and don't worry about your dad's feelings. Be as blunt as you can be, and wait for him to understand. While waiting do what you want, but also don't drop your dad entirely. Sorry, but this is the best advice I can give. He will be stubborn.

[Splash Shin]

Your father dismisses MBTI became he sees no practicality in it, and also for the reason hat he sees it as limiting, which, if taken the wrong way or to literally, it is indeed.

MBTI or any personality testing should never be taken literally. Even if you are the perfect stereo type. The reason is, that it will bring you into a limiting mindset. You should never validate why you can or cannot do something based on something like mbti. that is just putting yourself into a very limiting comfort zone.

Life is about diversity, and i think your father values that, and maybe he thinks that you do not, in which he stubbornly gathers that you are trying to put yourself into a limiting position in life in which you wont work hard to break the barriers of the mundane.

Maybe your father spent years in a career that he hated and was unmotivated in, but he knew if he worked hard and wanted that to change, he had to persevere. I'm not saying that is the only way, but i am saying that maybe why your father is this way.

[ChineseINFP]

Trust me, i've tried to give these myer briggs tests to people with a ST personality, and they will reject it, they don't see the big picture, but until you throw them the result, and let them read it, they'll change their mind. So try to give your dad the "Mechanic" ISTP personality conclusion about him, see if it changes his mind, after all, the description is very detail to feed his S

[seeg]

The only way the relationship is going to change (well, theres probaly more ways.. but yeah) is if you start doing what you love to do, become independent and essentially prove that you can survive in the world as a capable adult. When you prove yourself to be capable, your dad will come around, I'm sure of it.