I am new here:-) personalities and having some type of clue or hint as to how people may think is priceless and facinating! :-).
I have some troubles and I hope I can get knowledgeable feed back here. I am pretty sure the guy I am very interested in getting to know better is an ISTP. He is a mechanic, rides motorcycles, races, etc...
I like this guy and want to understand what he is about instead of accidentally making erroneous assumptions. I think he is worth the extra effort or maybe not lol that's why I am here.
I know he is attracted to me, we were dating but it failed. I felt a bit neglected but after 5 months we reconnected. I feel he has a very big heart. He is the single dad of an energetic teenager, has 5 dogs and a full time job-small business. He never seems to have time and I respect that but I believe if there is something worth your time, then you make a reasonable effort! I hope you guys can tell me what you think about this...
He and I have texted eachother maybe every 3-5 days. We have simple talk- seeing how we are doing and then it gets a bit flirtatious... I never feel he and I have deep meaningful conversations like I usually love to have with someone I respect and care about but he seems to care about me- don't know if just as a friend. About 4 weeks ago I was upfront and told him that I had feelings and was interested in getting to know each other better- he said he wasn't sure what he wanted.... Since then we have texted a little-he apparently hates talking on the phone so that usually never happens ( not happy about that) Then we have tried to see eachother but something always happens.... I spoke to him about that and asked if that was his way of just blowing me off-he said no blah blah that he likes hanging out with me etc... next day he texts me and we meet- the meeting was very nice we talked but we both knew the main reason for us meeting was for us to get physical-however, we talked for a while then we got physical and then cuddled a little lol apparently he doesn't usually do that because he considers it corny. After being together, talking and enjoying each other, its been close to 5 days and no text nothing :-( He said he was probably going to race and be gone for 5 days but really? no time to send a little text or connect with me after being intimate? I am not sure if this is just a personality thing, a busy thing and or a sign that maybe I don't mean that much to him .... What do you guys think?
I want to calmly think things through before I take any permanent action. In the meantime I am doing my thing etc... but in the back of my mind I am thinking about him and what the hell his actions mean!
Thanks for reading this and sorry for the length :-)