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This is a discussion on Dear [personality type], ... sincerely [personality type]. within the ISTP Forum - The Mechanics forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by Agent Blackout Dear ENFP, LOOOL did it strike a chord in you? :P You seem like a ...
Dear PerC ISTP moms,
Happy Mother's Day. Enjoy your special day and don't lift a finger to do nothing.
Dear ISTP son,
I plan to work you like a Hebrew slave today. Get ready. *evil laughter*
Your ENTJ mom
Please stop mimicking people you think are intelligent and find a sense of self. Stop copying my music taste and find stuff on your own. Also, your attempted rebellion from society has failed miserably. Please just go back to finding some wife material girl who gladly assumes gender stereotypes such as you yourself have so often reinforced. I only befriended you to get to the presumably INTJ guy I'm in love with.
Last edited by Inure Penumbra; 05-13-2012 at 09:47 AM.
Happy Mother's Day!
Dear ENFJ Ex Husband and My Baby Daddy,
Wow. I can't believe you snuck into town and want to take our daughter and me to brunch. I'm SO confused. I know our daughter would love it. I'm so confused.
Dear ISTP @JamieBond, She probably needs to hear, or read, some of this that you said. Maybe not today. But it would reflect her actions and behavior back to her and that could help her see that she needs move forward and seek what she needs to heal from her relationship with your Dad, so she does not sabotage her relationship with you. Which is clearly important to her, even though she acts opposite often!
I don't know if this is the case with you, but sometimes its easier to get along with the parent who was the wrongdoer in the marital relationship than the one who is all damaged from years of inflicted wrong and who wore herself out trying to make the relationship work, only to have it fail. Its easier for the knife-wielder to move on than the one suffering heart-stab wounds. Its easier to get along with the lighthearted person (that sometimes due to lack of conscience) than one who is bound up in hurt because of wrongdoing done to her. And yet, the one who is handicapped with wounds MUST move ahead with her plate of "more work" - she must do what it takes to forgive and heal.
Its probably hard for her to see your Dad engaged, ampliphyijng her "failure" and her unhappiness. These are her issues to fix, not yours, of course. You just need a relationship of your own with both parents, that is your due.
If a man really loves his children he would love their mother, since that's what makes a happy home and its what makes both parents able to be the best parent they can be. When he does the opposite it is a sad thing, but it is the way of the world. So many damaged people.
But the truth sets us free. Your reflecting back the truth of how her actions affect you can help her decide to move forward to set herself free.
I don't know your Dad, but its not right to complain to him about Mom. If he was a wrongdoer in that marriage, he may be a very willing audience to tales of her dysfunction because it assuages his guilt - he "had" to leave since she was a mess anyway. Her dysfunction is proof of "who she is" instead of anything he is responsible for, of course. Which is really wrong, isn't it? Not something to be a party to.
Hope you don't mind the advice. I have such a heart for those damaged in marriage and relationships. I feel for her difficult relationship with you, due to her own pain, when she must certainly want it to be peaceful. I am so grateful for healing, for the knowledge that I MUST forgive and then for Gods assistance to do that. Now I am lighthearted too (but with a clear conscience to boot; that's a bonus) and being that way, because of the freedom of letting go of the burden of hurt, has made my relationship with my son so much more enjoyable for us both. It is so easy to be together with him. It wasn't always that way, though I took care not to burden him in my hurt. Now I am unburdened. I will pray a Mother's Day prayer for your mother, that she would heal so she can love you as she wants, with peace and freedom.
Dear New Job
Thank you for putting me up in a 5 star hotel these next two nights.
How did you know that all I wanted for mother's day was a hotel room all to myself!?!
Totally worth enduring HR mandatory trainings. Bad news though, I will probably never manage to refrain from sexually harassing my coworkers.
Lol. I just gave you a the test and you come out ESTJ. Why the hell do I attract ESTJs? Because my P is so laid back you can control me?
And oh noes. Now that I know your type, I'm quite certain you think we are in commited relationship. Ugh. We will cross that bridge when we get to it I guess. But you should know I'm dating others.
However, tonight was pretty amazing. Please dear God, dont let me fall for you. I don't know you well enough and Im dating way too many other men.
a rested ISTP
Dear IxTx brother,
I only push you because I actually give a fuck about you and I worry if I don't you will not be successful.