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This is a discussion on I like to give advice, but now I could use advice. within the ISTP Forum - The Mechanics forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by DustyDrill Diving into a group of INTJs on the internet with an S in my type is ...
Sorry if my earlier post came off as a bit harsh. I actually mean it in a joking tone, but I realize it didn't come off that way. And sorry for making so many assumptions. You said you tried to just be passive and keep the peace, so I assumed you tried to stay out of it and let them fight it out, which seems impossible in that situation since you were the one who put them together. I understand that you want to help your sister, but it shouldn't be at your own expense. Six months should be plenty of time to get back on her feet, so again, I assumed she didn't want to leave.
I've been in a situation where I lived with a boyfriend and his brother, and the brother was a huge slob. He was great, and fun to be around, but we would get on each other's nerves, and fight all the time about the mess. It created a lot of stress on our relationship having the brother in the same apartment, and the weight just lifted after he moved out.
Last edited by Crystall; 08-13-2011 at 05:44 AM.
I'm sorry if this was covered before but i do not have the time to read through all the 100+ posts to see if this was touched or not.
But if i remember right, you said you felt drained, used... not yourself for 6 out of the 7 years. You were being co-dependent and just wasting away all the time. Do you want to become that again? Do you think you can avoid that again later on if you decide to go back? Try to figure out what do YOU want and what do you DO NOT want and decide based on that.
I myself am contemplating getting back with my ex also but i do not feel like it is a good idea since even though there were good times. There were reasons why it did not work out. I am no expert in this regard however. I will not say if to go back or not to you.
Advice is good, but the only one who knows the whole situation is yourself. Never blindly trust the advice of strangers or even friends. You know what you want to do in your gut. And it is usually the right thing. If it isn't, you learn to better understand yourself.