[reletative]

Diving into a group of INTJs on the internet with an S in my type is like diving into a pool of starving sharks.

maybe you can single out one that seems small or weak and isolate her from the herd.

[DustyDrill]

maybe you can single out one that seems small or weak and isolate her from the herd.

Epic.
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[Siren]

Diving into a group of INTJs on the internet with an S in my type is like diving into a pool of starving sharks.

Awww we're not that bad! And if I knew where to meet women like me I'd have more girl friends.

[Crystall]

If only it were that easy. A 3 week vacation isn't quite the same as a family member in dire straits, sadly. It's not a free ride, she's paying rent (just much less than she was paying, employment insurance). My ex was the one getting a free ride (she was in school).

I also didn't just do fuck all. I just ran out of options.

I was stuck in the middle, and obviously pissed off because of it. And neither of them would bend. It was like watching a couple of retarded chimps.

I admit to the mistake, and would never let my sister back once she's on her feet. But god damn! You'd think if you cared about someone you would put some effort into not making them miserable.

It wasn't exactly a vacation. I was supposed to be going back to college and they were supposed to be living with me for a while having a vacation. But my Swedish student loans company wouldn't approve my classes so I didn't get funding for the semester and had to drop them. Since they had already bought tickets we ended up on a totally unplanned trip moving and selling my stuff, and bouncing from different semi-shitty motels for 3 weeks and fighting with each other, which wasn't as much fun as it was stressful.

Sorry if my earlier post came off as a bit harsh. I actually mean it in a joking tone, but I realize it didn't come off that way. And sorry for making so many assumptions. You said you tried to just be passive and keep the peace, so I assumed you tried to stay out of it and let them fight it out, which seems impossible in that situation since you were the one who put them together. I understand that you want to help your sister, but it shouldn't be at your own expense. Six months should be plenty of time to get back on her feet, so again, I assumed she didn't want to leave.
I've been in a situation where I lived with a boyfriend and his brother, and the brother was a huge slob. He was great, and fun to be around, but we would get on each other's nerves, and fight all the time about the mess. It created a lot of stress on our relationship having the brother in the same apartment, and the weight just lifted after he moved out.

Two enfp's at each others throats? I wouldn't have imagined that was even possible.

We had fun when we were alone together, and we weren't exactly at each other's throats, just silently protesting that the other was getting her way and then fighting with him because we weren't happy. It was more or less about her being the third wheel.

[Kadjunga]

I'm sorry if this was covered before but i do not have the time to read through all the 100+ posts to see if this was touched or not.

But if i remember right, you said you felt drained, used... not yourself for 6 out of the 7 years. You were being co-dependent and just wasting away all the time. Do you want to become that again? Do you think you can avoid that again later on if you decide to go back? Try to figure out what do YOU want and what do you DO NOT want and decide based on that.

I myself am contemplating getting back with my ex also but i do not feel like it is a good idea since even though there were good times. There were reasons why it did not work out. I am no expert in this regard however. I will not say if to go back or not to you.

Advice is good, but the only one who knows the whole situation is yourself. Never blindly trust the advice of strangers or even friends. You know what you want to do in your gut. And it is usually the right thing. If it isn't, you learn to better understand yourself.