[ISTP] A friend of mine is still mad/distrustful at me

[paputsza]

Okay, so I was going to a party thrown by this guy I actually liked only he was there with this foreign hussy (not really a hussy) who his mom loved. So I was feeling heartbroken and wasn't about to get a ride with them to his beach party. So I went with my two guy friends one of which was a guy I had been intimate with a long time ago in high school, but I had no feelings for any longer, not that they were more than kinesthetic to start with, he's like an ex neo-nazi athiest and I'm all black and there are a lot of jews at the church I go to. He's kind of a masochist so...

So there I was at a toxic beach, only girl not wearing a black dress, and half the people there were flubby European out of state college students. Of course there was disco music which consists of a lot of Britney Spears and Greenday. So basically, crap. The sun was setting and I kissed the guy that followed me into the ocean and spewed out anime-esque lines. He had a certain charm to him, and a familiarity of sorts like a cross between me, a nerdy guy I know, and my ex ISFP boyfriend. Sadly for the rest of the night, the guy, who's name is Mark btw, got extremely possessive and wouldn't let me talk to any other guys, but I had gone to the party with guys so it was miserable for me, standing in an isolated corner of the beach toeing the sand. Then I find out that he has a boyfriend, and when I ask just to be safe what his boyfriend's name is he says "Frank" and I'm like "aw" because I know a gay Frank and you know that Nerd Marc reminded me of earlier, cheated on that gay Frank with a girl a few years earlier. Not to mention every relationship he's in has been crappy as far as I know. I wasn't sure if it was the same gay Frank (it was) but the stupid annoying guy wouldn't frickin let me talk to other guys still, plus he scared them away with dancing with them. I felt like bait. So the party was a bust in ways I didn't expect AT ALL. The foreign hussy didn't even like the guy I had a serious crush on but it's bad enough if he had a crush on her.

So I went home knowing that all guys are the same, as in they all feel like I'm falling in love with them. Even the foreign dj who I told had a crap taste in music.

So I ended up with the one guy I could talk to and wasn't passed out drunk, and that was that obsessive guy's friend. He was nice, ISxx, cute. But I had totally missed his name so I couldn't ask for his number. So I went home looking to find a way to get Mark's friends name, but couldn't reach Mark because he isn't awake during the day, red hair I guess. So I got Frank's number from a mutual friend, and tada, it was the same gay Frank after all. Through trying to get Mark's friend's number Mark just wouldn't give it up to either of us, offering me instead a skinny dipping session with him while convincing Frank that I liked him, Mark. Which I guess may make sense to a delusional mind since I had kissed the guy. But I test things out via trial and error, and that kiss was an error. Small rocks in my teeth and cliche one-sided feelings do not a crush make. All I wanted from Mark at this point, was his friend's name and number, and to frolic in the mall with him, F*g and H*g, but with a chicken suit and a powerranger-esque robot that shoots missiles. The most I've ever felt for Mark is irritation and humor, usually at the same time.

So Frank began to cuss me out for trying to steal his boyfriend for a few days in all caps, and eventually I got pissed (because it hurt) and told him in revenge that I had already kissed his boyfriend, and I could do more, but didn't want to for a billion and one reasons. He then proceeded to spaz, but at least he wasn't being an idiot about it.

I talked to him recently on facebook to see if it was the same Frank that was friends with four of my friends, and it was but he got all pissed because my message was too blunt, yet more caps, and yet more completely hypocritical name-calling, and it's been an entire year since the whole instance of his boyfriend cheating on him with me. Back then I said sorry, he said sorry but every time we talk he says something like "What's up sweetest DIE DIE DIE" and it's too much for me to handle. So should I still be friends with him, or just pretend he doesn't exist, considering I'm ISTP and he's blunt and extroverted? Has anyone else had a similar situation?

[rousse]

You're ISTP?

[pc3000]

Are you able to sum up the relevant points? I couldn't get through all that.

[madhatter]

Hussy, Nazi, masochist, toxic, Greenday, gay...have I left anything out?

[paputsza]

I am the ISTP, you just left out most of everything that matters. Is there a type of extrovert that forgives people? An extrovert that after they get disappointed in you, there's no grudge eventually? I'm tired of this kid giving me completely hypocritical advice every time he talks to me. I didn't do anything that wrong, except for attempting to mislead his boyfriend into a heavy frolic session.

• Point next: He makes me feel negative emotions, and then talk about them. I may have to cut him off from my life for personal protection.

• random, possibly useless: Because I'm a woman, I'm in touch with my feelings, just enough to kill them and rummage through the carcasses for anything useful.

Sorry if it's sort of wordy, I'm at a point of my week where I'm procrastinating.

[sofort99]

If this isn't a joke, you may need to retest to figure out your type.

And answer the questions the way you really are, not the way you wish you were. It doesn't work like that.

[eClipse]

What's this story got to do with ISTP, I'm confuzzled, best be put in a relationship or friendship forum.

[rousse]

Originally Posted by paputsza

I am the ISTP, you just left out most of everything that matters. Is there a type of extrovert that forgives people? An extrovert that after they get disappointed in you, there's no grudge eventually? I'm tired of this kid giving me completely hypocritical advice every time he talks to me. I didn't do anything that wrong, except for attempting to mislead his boyfriend into a heavy frolic session.

• Point next: He makes me feel negative emotions, and then talk about them. I may have to cut him off from my life for personal protection.

• random, possibly useless: Because I'm a woman, I'm in touch with my feelings, just enough to kill them and rummage through the carcasses for anything useful.

Sorry if it's sort of wordy, I'm at a point of my week where I'm procrastinating.

Does this come with a map? I'm lost.

[madhatter]

Everyone's confused, because 1) we have no idea how this relates to being ISTP, or any type for that matter, and 2) no one bothered to read past the second paragraph.

[Abuwabu]

That was all a bit too Vicky Pollard for me to read the whole thing. Also not sure ISTP would give a damn.