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This is a discussion on ISTP/ENFP relationships within the ISTP Forum - The Mechanics forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; I've noticed that there are a lot of ENFPs dating ISTPs here in the forum, and since I'm also sort ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    ISTP/ENFP relationships

    I've noticed that there are a lot of ENFPs dating ISTPs here in the forum, and since I'm also sort of dating one I'm curious about your views on the compatibility of these two types. I would post this in the relationship section, but I'm not sure how many ISTPs hang around there, and I want to hear your thoughts on it as well.

    What is your ENFP/ISTP relationship like?
    What are the biggest obstacles which you have faced?
    What attracts you to an ISTP/ENFP (as opposed to any other type) ?
    Any regrets about choosing this type of partner?


    You guys who aren't dating an ISTP/ENFP are of course also welcome to share your thoughts.



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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Socionics says that we're duals.


    In theory I can sorta see how it works, looking at it from an abstract view. But a theory means very little to me without personal experience to validate it.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by lucky View Post
    Socionics says that we're duals.


    In theory I can sorta see how it works, looking at it from an abstract view. But a theory means very little to me without personal experience to validate it.
    Not familiar with Socionics... could you elaborate?

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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Quote Originally Posted by Crystall View Post
    Not familiar with Socionics... could you elaborate?
    Socionics: Dual Relations, Duality, and Dualization

    Perhaps you can see some of that in your current relationship.


    It's a fascinating concept of personality theory. Socionics completely rationalizes matching between types, whereas the suggestions I've seen MBTI articles make have little base.

    Duality describes the kind of relationship I've idealized before I even knew anything about this stuff.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I can only speak from a friendship point of view, never met a female ENFP in person that I know of. So, I don't know how much you'll get from this. My wife is an INFP though if that tells you anything, there are many similarities but also a lot of differences of course.

    Anyway, the ENFP has been my absolute best friend for about 10 years now. We became friends almost instantly when we met and we became like brothers within a year or two after that. Before he got married and moved to an apartment I had a key to his family's house and even kept a computer there on his network. We've had some big fights over the years but half the time we were actually in agreement, just not speaking the same language(watch out for that). He and his wife are currently trying to teach their first son to call me uncle. So, I'd say we get along pretty good and I expect we'll always be like brothers.

    Biggest problem I had with him was that his driving really scared me sometimes but marriage/fatherhood improved that a ton. Is there something about NFs and driving? LOL Because, of the 4 I know only one doesn't worry me when I'm ridding with her(and I have my doubts about her type).
    No need to answer that, I'm just teasing.
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    ESTP - The Doers


    As far as duality is concerned, I've visited some ENFP threads, and have seen that some of them listen to the same exact music I do... NO ONE LISTENS TO MY MUSIC. Its crazy, for 5 minutes I had a man crush on Moby because we both like ulrich schnauss. Then I think one of the other ENFP's listens to just about every single techno group I listen to. This alone sorta makes me feel we have a lot in common. Plus I get along well with the one ENFP guy I know... as for ENFP women, I don't really know much about them at all. But just observing room mates over here at my college, the BEST room mate pairs are Duality, Identical, and pairs that only differ in I/E. I don't believe the socionics relationship chart entirely, because I think I read somewhere that ISTP's get along with a vast majority of the personalities to some extent. So I wouldn't go as far as saying I have an UNSTABLE relationship with ESTP's, because that's just not true.
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    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Some ENFPs girls seem to like me... but they seem to like everyone... so I don't really put much store on that.

    I'm good friends with an ExFP guy and back when we lived closer we were always doing stupid shit together.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    My husband is an ISTP and we usually get along quite well. I can't expect him to take much inititive socially. (He's very content to be alone with me or just alone period at times) but if I tell him we're going out with friends he rarely if ever, disagrees and we end up having a good time.

    The S vs. N thing is interesting to me. He and I can look at things very differently. We agree on most major issues but get there in a completely different way. I think his point of view is intriguing. I may not change my mind about things, but I certain like seeing a whole new way to perceive things. I also don't think he's a strong S, so that helps. I"m not the strongest N either I don't believe.

    As for F vs T...I'm definitely an F and he's definitely a T and sometimes that results in hurt feelings but we both agree we don't want someone just like us. I've dated other feelers and I found them a bit...smothering. And even though he doesn't always know what to make of my emotional temperment, he is very supportive and says all the time he wouldn't want to be with someone like him. I wonder if this is common? Do other feelers often prefer thinkers and vice versa the way that we seem to?

    We're both P's....but we seem to balance each other's weaknesses and have compensated where the other falls short. I help us get places on time, he helps make sure the bills are paid on time. He comes up with plans, I make sure we stick to them. Somehow it works, even though it is still a work in progress.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Linnifae View Post
    My husband is an ISTP and we usually get along quite well. I can't expect him to take much inititive socially. (He's very content to be alone with me or just alone period at times) but if I tell him we're going out with friends he rarely if ever, disagrees and we end up having a good time.

    The S vs. N thing is interesting to me. He and I can look at things very differently. We agree on most major issues but get there in a completely different way. I think his point of view is intriguing. I may not change my mind about things, but I certain like seeing a whole new way to perceive things. I also don't think he's a strong S, so that helps. I"m not the strongest N either I don't believe.

    As for F vs T...I'm definitely an F and he's definitely a T and sometimes that results in hurt feelings but we both agree we don't want someone just like us. I've dated other feelers and I found them a bit...smothering. And even though he doesn't always know what to make of my emotional temperment, he is very supportive and says all the time he wouldn't want to be with someone like him. I wonder if this is common? Do other feelers often prefer thinkers and vice versa the way that we seem to?

    We're both P's....but we seem to balance each other's weaknesses and have compensated where the other falls short. I help us get places on time, he helps make sure the bills are paid on time. He comes up with plans, I make sure we stick to them. Somehow it works, even though it is still a work in progress.
    I feel the exact same way about thinkers. I'm really attracted to men who can protect me, and make me feel safe, and a lot of feeler guys tend to be... kind of wimpy (no offense feeler guys). It also intrigues me that we think very differently. I cannot stand to be in boring relationships where my partner doesn't challenge me intellectually.

    Any advice about dating an ISTP?
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I am curious to know how say, dinner date conversations between ENFPs and ISTPs typically go (particularly for a couple that's been together for quite a while, maybe even cohabiting)? Thanks!
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