[lenabelle]

Hi, all. It's my first time in these parts but I needed some help typing my ex (I like to use MBTI to analyze past and current relationships). After ruling out many other types, I finally landed on ISTP, but it's difficult because I don't have any people close to me who are ISTP that I can compare him to. I read the personalitypage.com profile and while a lot of the things it brings up sound like my ex, there were also things that didn't fit.

Some things about him that could be ISTP: He likes working with his hands. He hates traditional academic settings (sitting in a classroom and learning) and would much rather be doing more hands-on activities. He likes taking things apart and trying to put them together again to see how they work (he's studying engineering now). He's a typical man's man, and has mostly guy friends who he considers "brothers". He doesn't talk a whole lot but isn't afraid to share his opinions around people he's close to. He's a super laid-back person, pretty much the definition of chill. He can get along with just about everyone, but can be surprisingly disdainful of people that he doesn't think are intellectually competent (that's not necessarily ISTP; I just threw that in there as a trait of his). He hates thinking long-term, and pretty much has a life philosophy of living in the now rather than worrying about the future.

But on the other hand, he doesn't have a thirst for adventure. He'd much rather chill with buddies and watch movies than do anything that involves physical activity. He's never experienced any "rash outbursts of anger" and doesn't seem to get overwhelmed by emotion ever. He is not very emotional at all but can be surprisingly affectionate. His love languages are verbal and gifts. He has a hard time juggling multiple things at one time. When he's overwhelmed, he tends to drop one thing to focus on another, hence why we broke up.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? How would you describe yourself?

[Duck_of_Death]

Sounds very ISTP to me. And the third paragraph makes him like me.
I'm not a very physical person or "adventurer." I prefer to lounge around.

In fact, I had trouble typing myself at first because I didn't live up to the stereotypes.

[Speedy Gonzalez]

Typing your ex is a bad idea, like sex with your ex...

[Aquc]

He might just be hiding the outbursts. I don't let anyone ever see mine. The only thing that gives any doubt at all to ISTP would be the love language being gifts, but that alone is nowhere near enough to dispute it.

[corvus12]

It has to be extreme for me to have an outburst (might be a female thing) Not saying i'm not boiling inside, but i have pretty good control over my emotions. I'm bilingual and although spelling and grammar are my Achilles heels ,most people can't tell that English in not my mother tongue. Not sure if that indicates i have a talent for other languages, just know i can't learn a language in a classroom setting .

[lenabelle]

Thanks for the responses! Yeah, I figured not every ISTP was going to be extremely athletic and thrill-seeking, but it's good to see that I wasn't completely off-target. It seems like I've finally typed him. And haha, Speedy Gonzalez, I'm typing him because I find MBTI dynamics in relationships really interesting, that's all. Am dating an ISTJ now. :)

[mn_shore]

I agree with above, he does sound istp. I will not usually let people see me angry, my emotional outbursts usually happen when i'm alone.