[Kadjunga]

Sounds about right.

Out of that list, about the job hunting and interviews. Internal "happiness" or a major positive mood before you go to an important job interview can get you a lot of brownie points and increase your chances. I force "positive talk" in my head all the way to the interview and that has worked well so far. The harder part is finding a job which you would like to apply for tho...



about the flipping out on "not caring" then that is a defensive reaction for someone saying that we don't show emotions as often as they would like. Talking and asking him to show you more emotions might work. He will start forcing it and maybe eventually, it will catch.

If it's not about you and he flips about what someone else says then... ask him why does he care? Only close friends matter. Strangers... can go to hell. Who are they to judge when they know squat?

[VictoriaB]

I would say the list of things apply to me.

But I've never cared enough or felt the need to try and change those things. I can see how things may be easier for others if I did, but it would cause issues within myself over it. Which really wouldn't be an improvement at all.

And with the emotional outbust, or just emotions in general. Just because you can't see the hurt/happiness on our faces doesn't mean its not there. I get pissed when people say that I don't have emotions. It's just in a completly different way then most others.

[LawyersAdvocate]

And with the emotional outbust, or just emotions in general. Just because you can't see the hurt/happiness on our faces doesn't mean its not there. I get pissed when people say that I don't have emotions. It's just in a completly different way then most others.

about the flipping out on "not caring" then that is a defensive reaction for someone saying that we don't show emotions as often as they would like. Talking and asking him to show you more emotions might work. He will start forcing it and maybe eventually, it will catch.

It's nice to know that a couple of you feel this way, because it makes sense of a couple of incidents for me. In fact, two of our biggest fights started with me saying, "You obviously just don't care," and he went off on me. It didn't make any sense to me that those words would make him so angry. I didn't even realize that's what set him off. When he finally explained it to me, he was all "How could you ever say that I don't care about you? F**k off." Mind you, any time I've said it, I was referring to him not caring about the situation at hand, not that he didn't care about me. Needless to say, there was booze involved. Now I think I understand why it triggered that kind of reaction.

The funny thing is, I never thought he was an emotionless guy. I just felt like he didn't have strong feelings as often as other people or waste feelings on unnecessary things, which is one of my favorite things about him—and me, to be perfectly honest lol. That's probably why it never crossed my mind that a statement like that might hurt him (FYI: "hurt" was his own word for it). I never thought of the tendency to control ones own emotions as a potential source of insecurity. I'd hate to live any other way.

If it's not about you and he flips about what someone else says then... ask him why does he care? Only close friends matter. Strangers... can go to hell. Who are they to judge when they know squat?

He generally doesn't care what other people think. To be fair, everybody loves him, but he's never shown any concern for that kind of thing.

[Erbse]

And for those of you who could relate, if any, have you had any success in dealing with or overcoming some of these problems

I can relate, but I don't actually would call them problems.

I'm quite content with them, actually.

[tine]

I personally suffer from all but the job interviews! I'm actually very good with interviews and win over a lot of employers, but I lack experience.
I do dislike the fact I'm so polite to people, but sometimes I come across as distant and so don't get invited to things when I'd like to be :/ So I guess it's just me being misleading somehow!!

[LawyersAdvocate]

I can relate, but I don't actually would call them problems.

I'm quite content with them, actually.

True. I would say they're all positive attributes. I guess I was more wondering whether the outcomes of some of these things ever annoyed you. But it seems like you tend to take them all in stride. Good to know.

[DustyDrill]

I have every one of those qualities other than the lack of interview skills. I've learned to fake enthusiasm and force myself to sell my skills/passion for short periods of time.

[LawyersAdvocate]

I have every one of those qualities other than the lack of interview skills. I've learned to fake enthusiasm and force myself to sell my skills/passion for short periods of time.

In other words, you're damn near perfect? Heh, not too shabby.

[DustyDrill]

In other words, you're damn near perfect? Heh, not too shabby.

Pretty much.