I was talking to my INTP knows-everythingl brother about introverted intuition and whatnot, and basically came to the conclusion that the way I view myself (ISTP) and how others view me are two completely different things. To be blunt, I view and aspire to become this badass ninja (splinter cell actually) who saves people and wears sweet clothing like he's from the future. But everyone else around me thinks of me as a quiet clown. Its kind of disappointing when I hear others' opinions of me, because I take myself very seriously yet no one else does.
I'm torn between how I should continue striving to become. I catch a lot of flak from people because I "act like something I'm not" when in fact I'm exactly what comes natural to me and I'm not a showoff at all. Any advice? Should I choose one of the two personas? I don't know what to believe.
An example in fashion: my mom tells me "white and black are not your color" when I personally like to buy white and black. Though at the same time I do like what she suggests (bright colors).
To put it short: how much merit do others' perceptions have of me, and should I listen to judgers when they tell me "YOU NEED TO BE MORE _______" (which almost always pisses me off when they say that.)