ISTP: Relationship Resolution

Here is the ISTP way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that ISTPs naturally show as they relate to others. If you are an ISTP let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an ISTP allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how ISTPs behave.

Myers-Briggs “Compatibility Test” Results - ISTP Personality Traits
• The ISTP can be “adventuresome” in life, love, hobbies, etc.
• The ISTP may not follow through with household chords as naturally as others
• The ISTP is especially impulsive, doing things in an unplanned way
• ISTP is cool, somewhat laid back at times as they view relationships
• ISTPs can be views as uncommunicative at times by mates and family
• The ISTP is normally very kind, liberal, bighearted with their mate and children
• ISTPs, at times do not choose relationships wisely…impulsive is a better word
• The ISTP desires to be right more often in relationship than wanting to please others
• ISTPs are very good a fixing things
• ISTP will not express emotion in relationship that well and won’t want to be constrained by the emotion of a mate…typically
• ISTP can be good lovers but will not respond to romance, they are practical
• The ISTP range of family activity may be varied and at times involve a bit of risk

On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the ISTP approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.

ISTP Conflict Reactions Personality Traits
• ISTP will not flee the conflict
• Will react to the conflict directly, straightforwardly, impartially, and at first anyway, dispassionately
• Naturally somewhat prone toward inpatients with the conflict, but will be open to “putting it off” if more information is forthcoming
• Take the most logical approach to finding the solution
• Will view “conflict” as a normal, accepted part of life
• Will take a realistic, no-nonsense, in-the-moment approach to it
• ISTP may find conflict initially exciting and adventurous

ISTP Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits
• Direct and purposeful action, although in a reserved manner
• ISTP will use logic to solve the problem
• ISTPs usually decide quickly but with flexibility, may be better to wait for more data
• ISTPs can move on the decision quickly

ISTP Likely Positive Solutions Will Be:
• Realistic, in-the now
• Logical
• Practical and pragmatic
• Feasible
• Well-organized
• Results-focused



ISTP Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities
• ISTP will probably not affirm someone else’s feelings and emotions in a conflict
• ISTP tendency to direct, order and not listen
• ISTP may not view the alternatives, the options as quickly as others
• May unilaterally decide upon a solution and run the risk of alienating others
• ISTPs may put it off
• ISTP will naturally critique things not meeting their standards
• ISTP will be less likely to indicate thanks and appreciation
• ISTP may have a tendency to fix a problem rather than simply listen

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