[Blue Butterfly]

Well, there are only very few people I really like as friends. It's almost impossible for me to just go to a party and have fun, I already tried it, but I always feel totally alien there. I just can't open up so easily. No one actually speaks with me, and I speak to nobody as well. Besides, what should I say? I'm not a big fan of small talk and I also think a loud party is not the best place to talk. But all this is not so bad, I learned to get along with it. But it's always hard if you meet new people.
Just like: "Hey, new friend come on, we party all night!"
And I say: "No sorry, I sort of... hate it."

Many people would probably say I don't have any life at all. I think the opinion of others is no problem, but all this makes it harder to meet people you actually would like. Well, even if there are some problems, I'm happy with my life as it is.

Me too. I don't let just anyone in my life. And I refuse to go to parties since I hate that kind of thing. I always have. And it may be that the people you meet at those parties are not the kind of people you would want as a friend anyway.

And as long as you are happy with your life than I would say have have a life. One where you are happy.

[Blue Butterfly]

I would have to say my biggest problem in life is not being able to open up to anyone. I keep myself hidden behind a blank expression and no one can tell what I am feeling. There are times when I would just like to let myself spill out when they ask "are you doing okay?" but I casually respond with "I'm fine, don't worry about me". I can't burden myself on other people, no matter how much help I want, I must go alone to prove to myself that I don't need anyone and can take care of any problem by myself. On top of that, I have no one that I am connected to. I would say the closest "connections" I have are with my cousin and my sister, but my cousin (being the highly extroverted person that she is) is always out and about, and I don't live with my sister or talk to her much. My life is on repeat of work, come home, internet, sleep, work... I would really like the break this paradigm, but I need help in that, and then there is the part of me that won't seek it. Although, for some reason I can talk about it online. When I think about what most other people are doing my age (I am pretty sure they call it having a life, but I am not completely sure :P) I get a knot in my chest thinking of how pathetic my life has become...

Then after that I feel even worse, because if this is my biggest problem, then I really have no problem at all, considering people like Seekjess (again my condolences) who have problems way worse than what I do...

I have found that even if one does open up to others that they cannot understand anyway. Most of what people want is to party and get involved in a bunch of brain dead activities anyway. And that is fine for a short period of time but one needs that deep level of connection and communication too.

[Pa3s]

Me too. I don't let just anyone in my life. And I refuse to go to parties since I hate that kind of thing. I always have. And it may be that the people you meet at those parties are not the kind of people you would want as a friend anyway.

And as long as you are happy with your life than I would say have have a life. One where you are happy.

Yes, exactly! Many people said I would never find friends if I always refuse to go to parties... but I think there won't be people who don't like parties as well. Most people in my courses at school are total "party animals". Sometimes I think they speak in an own language which I don't understand. They are all tuned to the same wavelength, you know? And then, there are guys which think they need to "help" you and think you're just shy... that's why I always speak my mind about that. I absolutely hate those people. I mean okay, they always think they would do something good when they "socialise" a loner, but this can be extremely annoying. It's good to know that there are also different people. ;)

[NARCO]

Hmm.... a "problem" for me is finding a decent girlfriend (who is potential wife material). There just doesn't seem to be any around at my university. I do not like being lonesome.

[Coveny]

What do you struggle with the most in life? Problems you try to overcome but seem to never find that perfect solution? Please answer only in your personality type.

Because you seem to want to understand my type better I'm going to start with my childhood. I can only speak for myself of course but here's how my stuggles when.

1- 4 = I'm told I was a very demanding child, they don't have any video tapes though.
5 - 12 = I bullied the bullies and made teachers cry. I rarely failed at anything I set my mind to. Struggled with not considering everyone stupid (HARD, and Still have difficulty with this one)
13 - 17 = Struggled with "making" people like me. Man that doesn't work AT ALL. (Gave up on this one but that was some tough years)
18 = 28 = Struggled with "fitting in" enough so that I could be around people and not be ostrasized. (Hard at first but not a big deal now)
29 - now = Struggle with not being in charge, or being able to run work the "right" way. To this day it bug's me to work in an environment that is ineffecient, or chotic. (Moderate to mild)

You should note that I consider myself a Dom, and that I'm a pretty aggresive individual. I'm also not traditional in many of my beliefs. (ie religion, monogomy, capital punishment) So my experience may differ from some of the other ISTJ's.

I also hate parties. I also am very selective with who I open up to in the real world. I would explain it as wearing a mask in public so as not to scare people. Few see beneath the mask.

Seekjess I'm sorry for your loss. My mother is very dear to me and I treasure the time that I have with her. As others have stated if you wanna talk message me.

Hope that helps with your understanding. Let me know if you would like to delve deeper.

[Blue Butterfly]

Hmm.... a "problem" for me is finding a decent girlfriend (who is potential wife material). There just doesn't seem to be any around at my university. I do not like being lonesome.

You will find the right woman. Just keep looking.

[Blue Butterfly]

Because you seem to want to understand my type better I'm going to start with my childhood. I can only speak for myself of course but here's how my stuggles when.

1- 4 = I'm told I was a very demanding child, they don't have any video tapes though.
5 - 12 = I bullied the bullies and made teachers cry. I rarely failed at anything I set my mind to. Struggled with not considering everyone stupid (HARD, and Still have difficulty with this one)
13 - 17 = Struggled with "making" people like me. Man that doesn't work AT ALL. (Gave up on this one but that was some tough years)
18 = 28 = Struggled with "fitting in" enough so that I could be around people and not be ostrasized. (Hard at first but not a big deal now)
29 - now = Struggle with not being in charge, or being able to run work the "right" way. To this day it bug's me to work in an environment that is ineffecient, or chotic. (Moderate to mild)

You should note that I consider myself a Dom, and that I'm a pretty aggresive individual. I'm also not traditional in many of my beliefs. (ie religion, monogomy, capital punishment) So my experience may differ from some of the other ISTJ's.

I also hate parties. I also am very selective with who I open up to in the real world. I would explain it as wearing a mask in public so as not to scare people. Few see beneath the mask.

Seekjess I'm sorry for your loss. My mother is very dear to me and I treasure the time that I have with her. As others have stated if you wanna talk message me.

Hope that helps with your understanding. Let me know if you would like to delve deeper.

Coveny, I don't think anyone has ever layed out their entire life before me like that thank you so much for doing that. It does help me understand ISTJ's a lot more. You guys are almost me entire opposite and you are one of the hardest ones to understand. A secret between you and me I also struggle to not see other people as stupid. I would like to get to know you better.

[Mercer]

Because you seem to want to understand my type better I'm going to start with my childhood. I can only speak for myself of course but here's how my stuggles when.

1- 4 = I'm told I was a very demanding child, they don't have any video tapes though.
5 - 12 = I bullied the bullies and made teachers cry. I rarely failed at anything I set my mind to. Struggled with not considering everyone stupid (HARD, and Still have difficulty with this one)
13 - 17 = Struggled with "making" people like me. Man that doesn't work AT ALL. (Gave up on this one but that was some tough years)
18 = 28 = Struggled with "fitting in" enough so that I could be around people and not be ostrasized. (Hard at first but not a big deal now)
29 - now = Struggle with not being in charge, or being able to run work the "right" way. To this day it bug's me to work in an environment that is ineffecient, or chotic. (Moderate to mild)

You should note that I consider myself a Dom, and that I'm a pretty aggresive individual. I'm also not traditional in many of my beliefs. (ie religion, monogomy, capital punishment) So my experience may differ from some of the other ISTJ's.

I also hate parties. I also am very selective with who I open up to in the real world. I would explain it as wearing a mask in public so as not to scare people. Few see beneath the mask.

Seekjess I'm sorry for your loss. My mother is very dear to me and I treasure the time that I have with her. As others have stated if you wanna talk message me.

Hope that helps with your understanding. Let me know if you would like to delve deeper.

i was never able to fit in either, when i was in grade 11 i just stopped trying, alot of people tell me i scare them, and that i come off as a psychopath. when i was little i tried to hard to hard to be one of the guys, i think this is ecause my own home lacked so much structure, and love that i had to look for it somewhere else. i was always the black sheep. i would get punnished for things that no one else would get punished for (like getting a galss of water, or wanting to finnish my breakfast before i did something.) i was treated like a second class citizen by all my family, and my brother used to kick me in the shins with steel toed boots for no reason at all. when i was 17 my brother and sister noticed i had gotten noticably stronger than them and the physical abuse stopped. but they still find verbal ways to shit on my (calling me a douche, barbarian, nigger, anything that would indicate i was irrational or lower class status than them.) when i was 13 i abandoned the catholic faith. when i was 14 i realized that everyhting my family told me, or did was bullshit. as a child i undrstood that there was good and bad and everyone knew the difference, those who didnt do what was right were intentionaly bad. later i learned that everything was bullshit and how disgustingly arbitrary my parents were. i spent 4 years coasting around trying to reach other people, trying to find somewere i fit in. now i understand people and myself better, and i know what needs to be done inorder to make my future better.

[Jewnathan]

My biggest problem is expressing myself, by far. I have huge problems even expressing myself on the internet. I've been told, just like the above poster, that I am a psychopath, robot etc. I do have feelings, I just don't know how to show them. It's like wearing a mask or a costume all day which I CANT even take off even in front of my family.

[Stoic]

. I've been told, just like the above poster, that I am a psychopath, robot etc..

At work they have taken to calling me John Version 5.0 (why 5.0 idk)... because they say I am a robot/ machine...