Needing some input on a fellow ISTJ (male) whom is my good friend. I want to know where I stand in his mind/heart and if he sees me more than a friend. When we first got close, he regarded me as his pal and always refer me as that. He has stopped referring me as that and always use my name instead.
Other than that:
- He is very kind to me and always doing his best to help; has never turn down any of my requests even if it serves him inconvenience. He said he felt privileged when I seek his help. I'm guessing he feels happy that I trust him, that among so many others, I chose him. (Due to our work nature, trust is important for us to decide who we want to work with).
- He opens up personal stuff like his family (not often nor in-depth, but bits and pieces randomly), his FEELINGS (mainly sadness), his personal opinion on things/people, who he is in-touch with, he shares about his day whenever he gets the chance, his fears as well and sometimes relating some of his experiences at work. Whenever he shares, he would include his thought process so that I can relate from his POV.
- He has told me (more than once) that he trusts me and I am reliable. Among so many others, he chose me for help too :blushed:
- He is around me often (we work in a different departments so he has to go out of his way. he always justify his "appearances" with work reasons but often gave a big grin and looking away/down when he pass my desk)
- He has kept me company on few ocassion that I have to work late. He said he knows that I'm scared being alone.
- He remembers everything I say, sometimes just so to diss it back at me. Sometimes I don't even remember telling him those things :tongue:
- He seemed to be genuinely enjoying my company; looking very happy, smiling and laughing most of the time.
- He is very playful with me. Always trying to "get on my nerves" and trigger some sort of reaction from me lol
- When we hang out, he gave his full attention and was seldom on his phone.
- He compliments me on my personality and character, less on looks.
- He maintains eye contact when we talk (which makes me nervous AF as he literally gaze into my eyes). When we weren't talking, he continues staring with his mouth slightly parted. When I asked him why he said: "just staring at you" without even looking away wtf.
- Being very charismatic, used words like "just/only for you" when he help out with stuff.
- When we were alone once, he told me that a love song is for me and played it on his iPad (the lyrics meant confession) (he played it off with a joke to dilute the situation. I guess ISTJ like to plan their escape fast)
- He doesn't mind the physical proximity when we sat or stood close to each other. I do feel his nervousness sometimes.
- We used to text very often, every other day and continues late into the night, just chatting without particular reason. The texting are lesser now.
- When we're on the phone (very rarely), it's usually quite long (about 20-30 mins).
- He is sensitive to my mood and emotions and would ask if I'm okay. He is scared of me being angry at him lol.
- He is protective of me by warning me of certain people and tells me not to be invested easily in people/circumstances lest I be hurt.
- We were having dinner and as I stood up to get orders from the counter he uttered: "don't go" while looking straight ahead without any emotion (is this a joke???)
- Nowadays he only wants to hang out one-on-one with me albeit having common friends, he said he don't really like the rest of the people :laughing:
- He sents by text, very "formal invitation" to hang out. And I always get to choose the venue/activity. This puts a smile to my face. Very different from my other male friends.
Our conversations, whenever there is, flow with ease and often drag on hours at a time. He doesn't feel like an ISTJ when he's with me - he's talkative, happy and full of expression. He often act like a child/ act cute to make me laugh. He is like my best friend and big brother so I hate it when I began to feel my emotions being invested more than just friendship.
What do you ISTJ (males) think?
Other than that:
- He is very kind to me and always doing his best to help; has never turn down any of my requests even if it serves him inconvenience. He said he felt privileged when I seek his help. I'm guessing he feels happy that I trust him, that among so many others, I chose him. (Due to our work nature, trust is important for us to decide who we want to work with).
- He opens up personal stuff like his family (not often nor in-depth, but bits and pieces randomly), his FEELINGS (mainly sadness), his personal opinion on things/people, who he is in-touch with, he shares about his day whenever he gets the chance, his fears as well and sometimes relating some of his experiences at work. Whenever he shares, he would include his thought process so that I can relate from his POV.
- He has told me (more than once) that he trusts me and I am reliable. Among so many others, he chose me for help too :blushed:
- He is around me often (we work in a different departments so he has to go out of his way. he always justify his "appearances" with work reasons but often gave a big grin and looking away/down when he pass my desk)
- He has kept me company on few ocassion that I have to work late. He said he knows that I'm scared being alone.
- He remembers everything I say, sometimes just so to diss it back at me. Sometimes I don't even remember telling him those things :tongue:
- He seemed to be genuinely enjoying my company; looking very happy, smiling and laughing most of the time.
- He is very playful with me. Always trying to "get on my nerves" and trigger some sort of reaction from me lol
- When we hang out, he gave his full attention and was seldom on his phone.
- He compliments me on my personality and character, less on looks.
- He maintains eye contact when we talk (which makes me nervous AF as he literally gaze into my eyes). When we weren't talking, he continues staring with his mouth slightly parted. When I asked him why he said: "just staring at you" without even looking away wtf.
- Being very charismatic, used words like "just/only for you" when he help out with stuff.
- When we were alone once, he told me that a love song is for me and played it on his iPad (the lyrics meant confession) (he played it off with a joke to dilute the situation. I guess ISTJ like to plan their escape fast)
- He doesn't mind the physical proximity when we sat or stood close to each other. I do feel his nervousness sometimes.
- We used to text very often, every other day and continues late into the night, just chatting without particular reason. The texting are lesser now.
- When we're on the phone (very rarely), it's usually quite long (about 20-30 mins).
- He is sensitive to my mood and emotions and would ask if I'm okay. He is scared of me being angry at him lol.
- He is protective of me by warning me of certain people and tells me not to be invested easily in people/circumstances lest I be hurt.
- We were having dinner and as I stood up to get orders from the counter he uttered: "don't go" while looking straight ahead without any emotion (is this a joke???)
- Nowadays he only wants to hang out one-on-one with me albeit having common friends, he said he don't really like the rest of the people :laughing:
- He sents by text, very "formal invitation" to hang out. And I always get to choose the venue/activity. This puts a smile to my face. Very different from my other male friends.
Our conversations, whenever there is, flow with ease and often drag on hours at a time. He doesn't feel like an ISTJ when he's with me - he's talkative, happy and full of expression. He often act like a child/ act cute to make me laugh. He is like my best friend and big brother so I hate it when I began to feel my emotions being invested more than just friendship.
What do you ISTJ (males) think?