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This is a discussion on what do istjs think of enfps? within the ISTJ Forum - The Duty Fulfillers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; okay, so one of my best friends EVER is an istj. i like him because he's calming and nice and ...

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    what do istjs think of enfps?

    okay, so one of my best friends EVER is an istj. i like him because he's calming and nice and will always be there for me, regardless. i also like him because he's somewhat of a mystery to me, and i love learning new things. however, he's also extraordinarily frustrating because he is so quiet and always so grounded about everything. with that being said though, i like how he's able to keep me in line and pull my head from the clouds.

    so, now i'm curious. what do you guys think about my type? (he told me that he enjoys hanging around me, but i'm not entirely sure why, and well, the verbal declaration of enjoying my presence was very hard to get out of him, i highly doubt i'll get an explanation anytime soon!)
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    I like to chase ENFP females. I have never caught one though , not sure what I would do with her if I did as you are equally as mysterious! They like to play but when it comes to a serious relationship, they hide.

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    ESTP - The Doers

    I get along well with xNFP's in general, but you extroverts tend to drain me a little bit.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by NARCO View Post
    They like to play but when it comes to a serious relationship, they hide.
    Wow! I just gained a new appreciation for the insight of ISTJ's.

    Posted: Looking for a serious relationship

    *Watches Enfp's run away* ^_^


    I think ISTJ's have an accurate opinion of Enfp's. :-)
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Quote Originally Posted by unbeingdead View Post
    okay, so one of my best friends EVER is an istj. i like him because he's calming and nice and will always be there for me, regardless. i also like him because he's somewhat of a mystery to me, and i love learning new things. however, he's also extraordinarily frustrating because he is so quiet and always so grounded about everything. with that being said though, i like how he's able to keep me in line and pull my head from the clouds.

    so, now i'm curious. what do you guys think about my type? (he told me that he enjoys hanging around me, but i'm not entirely sure why, and well, the verbal declaration of enjoying my presence was very hard to get out of him, i highly doubt i'll get an explanation anytime soon!)
    I think the way ENFPs can be open and talkative to just about anyone is delightful at times, and it's actually a good plus for the ISTJ when conversing, because we don't have to come up with our own input constantly - you can almost keep a conversation going by yourselves. It's also a minus, however, because sometimes we do have some important input to bring up, and it becomes hard if you keep talking ;)
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Flipit View Post
    Sometimes we do have some important input to bring up, and it becomes hard if you keep talking ;)
    I do this a lot and I hate it about myself. A lot of my friends are ISXJ's and I occasionally I notice they try to get something in while I'm talking, but it doesn't actually hit me til minutes later. I'm not sure why.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Quote Originally Posted by unbeingdead View Post
    okay, so one of my best friends EVER is an istj. i like him because he's calming and nice and will always be there for me, regardless. i also like him because he's somewhat of a mystery to me, and i love learning new things. however, he's also extraordinarily frustrating because he is so quiet and always so grounded about everything. with that being said though, i like how he's able to keep me in line and pull my head from the clouds.

    so, now i'm curious. what do you guys think about my type? (he told me that he enjoys hanging around me, but i'm not entirely sure why, and well, the verbal declaration of enjoying my presence was very hard to get out of him, i highly doubt i'll get an explanation anytime soon!)
    I'm an ISTJ male who has had a few good ENFP female friends in the past. They were a joy to be around (in moderate doses). For me positive interactions with ENFP types have occurred either one-on-one, or in small groups. They were surprisingly easy to talk to and we always had very interesting conversations. Female ENFP's are good friends to have when I need someone to bounce ideas off of or if I need help understanding personal interactions with others. They helped me to loosen up a little bit and have fun, and I enjoyed seeing the world through their eyes for a little while. They were a bright spot in my day that I looked forward to. They said the same kinds of things about me that you said you like about your friend, so that's interesting.

    Your friend may feel the same way about you as I've described above, but he may not be very expressive about it. Remember that a lot of ISTJ types "speak" through their actions. Does he spend time with you? (Obviously yes). Does he listen to you? Does he take time to consider what you've had to say? Does he laugh at your little jokes? Does he offer you any advice? These actions may indicate that he thinks highly of you and values your friendship.

    Congrats on getting him to verbally admit that he enjoys hanging out with you. Were there very many other people around when he said this? Some ISTJ's find it hard to talk about themselves, so it may be best to bring up personal topics (i. e. feelings) in private. And don't go shouting the results from the rooftops (not that you would) because that might be perceived as disrespectful and untrustworthy conduct (just fyi).

    As an ISTJ I've always found it surprising and flattering when an ENFP took an interest in me. You guys are a fascinating group.

    Don't hesitate to ask if you have any more questions.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    My ENFP husband taught me to just relax while he does everything in his round about way. He constantly asks for feedback and I sometimes struggle to come up with answers he wants to hear. If it is something I am disinterested in I kind of have to fake like I think it is interesting or he will get discouraged,depressed and maybe even a little offended so I will go the extra mile and find something interesting and positive about it. This has made me a better person and certainly it has improved my people skills. On the other hand, I can totally forget about him showing interest in certain things I am interested in. I get things done while he does lots of things and eventually comes up with really neat things if I just stay quiet and watch while giving him encouraging words. I suspect he tries to do that for me too on occasion.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    I love XNFPs! I find them so freaking lovely and sweet, and their dreamy and fun behaviour helps me to relax a bit more and enjoy the moment. I only have one thou... I want more!!

    Don't hesitate on asking him why he enjoys hanging out with you. If we say the fact, it's because we are willing to say the reasons if you want us to. But keep in mind what indyjones16 said:

    Some ISTJ's find it hard to talk about themselves, so it may be best to bring up personal topics (i. e. feelings) in private. And don't go shouting the results from the rooftops (not that you would) because that might be perceived as disrespectful and untrustworthy conduct (just fyi).
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    I have an ENFP friend and I LOVE joking around with her. It's sort of more like I'm making fun of her, but it's not mean-spirited or anything, and it just makes her laugh more, which makes me laugh more at the whole situation.

    It's encouraging being around someone who is so kind and goes out of her way to check up on my emotional state when it's so hard for me to talk about it, or even know if it's worth talking about or whatever.
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