[Mercer]

I've noticed alot of people on this forum talking about attraction and dating. im not a sex guru or anyhting but i have recently come into some knowledge that shed light on my past relationships and i now know what i did right and wrong. so lets brainstorm a little and i can teach you what i've learned and you can hopefully teach me.

[MyLittleBlackHeart]

okay.......GO! There are a LOT of people interested in ISTJ relationships...because they are so SHHHHHHHHH.
My son is a 13yo ISTJ and he is driving me crazy watching him trip all over himself trying to understand girls and he WONT LISTEN TO A THING I TRY TO TELL HIM....

[Mercer]

okay.......GO! There are a LOT of people interested in ISTJ relationships...because they are so SHHHHHHHHH.
My son is a 13yo ISTJ and he is driving me crazy watching him trip all over himself trying to understand girls and he WONT LISTEN TO A THING I TRY TO TELL HIM....

first of all attraction dosnt make sense. or more accuratly it dosnt work the way it should. guys who act overly nice are actually just falling into the friend zone. she'll let him think that eventually he'll get some but he'll just be there for emotional baggage and support. sounds cruel? "friend zone" people arent really victims they are really selfish and insecure people who are trying to manipulate girls into liking them through favors and gifts. women like dominant men who are incontrol of themselves and in control of their lives. which is why they often go for jerks because jerks display alot of dominant qualities.

[MyLittleBlackHeart]

Well, some of this is correct....though in healthy relationships things can be different than what the superficial world seems to promote.

Being a dick isnt always going to get you far...not with someone who is stable and healthy.

[Mercer]

Well, some of this is correct....though in healthy relationships things can be different than what the superficial world seems to promote.

Being a dick isnt always going to get you far...not with someone who is stable and healthy.

call it being a dick. but its pretty much been proven. its more necesary with women who are very attractive. because they have men giving them whatever they want all the time, were raised being given what they want on a silver platter.

[MyLittleBlackHeart]

I think you have a point that especially applies when people are younger and more competitive and superficial....
however as you age and learn more that certain behaviors are not worth the trouble no matter how good looking etc....you mature beyond a lot of that attitude.

[BehindSmile]

My boyfriend is an ISTJ and he's very hard to read at times. He's a very private person and it took me a while for him to open up to me. He's still closed off about some things, but it's all a journey and learning experience.

[Tkae]

I think you just haven't met someone who's understanding and is willing to put forth energy into unlocking all your patterns.

But I also think you don't put forth enough effort to pursue who would offer that.

Like me. If you were determined and willing to be shot down a couple of times, eventually I'd give it a chance and be willing to go all in and treat it like I would any other kind of relationship.

But, say, you go in with an NT, it will be like two rocks scraping against each other.

No offense, NT

[MyLittleBlackHeart]

I am not sure if Mercer is trying to get around to ISTJ's dating or just his perception of guys dating.????

[SeekJess]

I am an ISTJ, and I wish someone was dating meeeeeeeeeeee.