Hi all you ISTJ guys out there :)
I would like to ask you a question regarding the ISTJ guy I am with.
He often says he gets mad at me if he spends too much time with me. Now that hurts because it means something about my personality that annoys or upsets him.
For example, yesterday we went to a chairty cooking event together. He was not really into the idea but i somehow convinced him to go with me. On our way there we got stuck in traffic for a long time. I can see he started being impatient.
At the even I was chatting up with everyone and having a good time. I thought he was socializing as well because he was talking to some people on his own.
So at the end of the day he took me home around 5pm. I wanted to hangout for a bit longer but he said he wanted to be along for the night. I sensed he was not very happy so I asked him if I did something to upset him. He just said he wants to be alone.
When I got home I texted him but he did not reply. Kowning him I knew something was wrong. But I know when he wants to be alone I better leave him alone.
This morning he sent me a text saying that for some reason he always gets upset when he spends too much time with me. He is not upset anymore now. He said if I wanna talk we will talke tonight about it.
I was just like... man if me being myself upset this guy how can we ever be together as in getting married? I will be seeing him everyday and get him mad all the time!
Any suggestions ISTJ men out there? I would really appreciate your opinion!