[QueenOfCats]

So at school this year, there's an ISTJ that dislikes me. Last year, we hated each other. He was mean and annoying to me and likewise for him. I loved annoying him on purpose(just the way he reacted was funtertaining, quite predictable) and he just made mean/crude comments about me. For example, he called me a "hooker" for no reason once. And I called him a "big bowl of black jello" once too. He called me a "retard" on the last day of school and I just ignored him. We were about equal I think but whenever he insulted me, it was 2 or 3 on 1(him and his friend(s) against me)I've ignored him for the first 2 weeks of school because I had no idea what to say because I don't want to be rivals with him this year. He hasn't talked to me at all either. But I don't want it to be that way, so atleast how can I make him not hate me anymore? I was friends with him for around a year before we started hating each other. He's very traditional, rule-abiding, and loyal to people he likes. I've thought about his type. He's either ISTJ or ESTJ. Thought he doesn't like loudness very much so he's more on the ISTJ side in my opinion.

[Memphisto]

If you guys really don't like each other then maybe not talking to each other is the best solution? Especially if your "conversations" consist mostly of words meant to annoy each other.

Then again there's the theory that "boys pick on the girls they like..."... Maybe he likes you. Although this doesn't really sound like ISTJ behavior to me...

Anyway, in a broader sense of the question... It's really not that hard to be friends with an ISTJ. Be direct with them. Be patient with them. Take the time to truly get to know them. Be honest with them. Be on time. Treat them with respect...

If you take the time to actually get to know this person and stop trying to get under his skin on purpose you might find a pretty decent human being and a loyal friend underneath it all.

[niss]

How do you know he's an ISTJ?

If he is an ISTJ, it sounds like you aren't on his radar. Why not leave it that way?

[MonieJ]

Just leave it alone dnt talk to him and he should just leave you alone.

Although he doesn't really sound like a ISTJ.

[CallSignOWL]

And I called him a "big bowl of black jello" once too.

"Big bowl of black jello"...that has to be the best insult Ive ever heard! Bahahaha, love it!

[Lunamir24]

So at school this year, there's an ISTJ that dislikes me. Last year, we hated each other. He was mean and annoying to me and likewise for him. I loved annoying him on purpose... I don't want to be rivals with him this year, so atleast how can I make him not hate me anymore? I was friends with him for around a year before we started hating each other.

-confused- so why the change of heart suddenly? Do you secretly like him ;p? Like Memphisto said though, I don't think it's sounds like typical ISTJ behavior. They're usually nice to people they like, so their teasing is usually more harmless. What happened to make you two hate each other? ISTJs don't forget... so if you did something really bad to cause such hatred towards each other, it may be extremely difficult to regain his trust & have the same kind of friendship as before again.

To be friends with an ISTJ though.. I guess, just be authentic. Show that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them, respect their space/thoughts, and just be friendly. Don't be afraid to take the initiative with them (like saying hi first, randomly approach first, etc) since they tend to keep to themselves. They are slow to trust & seem distant at first, but if you keep trying & stick with them for awhile, they will start to warm up to you. They can be very good/loyal friends once they consider you one too.

[sesshomaru_haku]

Well, if I were him...I'd want you to apologise for your insults and extend an olive branch, then I'd consider being friendlier.

[Cheebye]

lol how old are you? Most ISTJs I know probably wont do this kind of thing. Me on the other hand love insulting people, but in a loving way of course. I will usually have a cheeky grin to show Im not serious but somehow it just seems to irritate people even more :)

[sesshomaru_haku]

@Cheebye: Judging from your username...are you from Singapore or another Chinese-dominated country? XD

[Dizzle]

I find it odd that an INTP and ISTJ would be fighting and calling each other names. Why were you fighting to begin with? If it was a falling out of sorts, then ask him to talk to you alone for a couple of minutes and have an honest discussion about what happened. Maybe you can come to an agreement to not be hostile towards each other.