Hey ISTJ guys :)
I have been dating an ISTJ guy on and off for 2 years. I really like him and I know he really likes me but he just never was able to fully commit to me. He is very attractive to me but he is not the type who want to play around with women (he is rather shy) but I think his main problem is his financial stability issue.
Our communication is not that great. Being a Sensitive extrovert I always want to express my feeling and get feed backs from him. I just don't understand why it is sooooo hard and uncomfortable for him to express how he feels about me.
When I ask him does he really like me. He wouuld say something like if I did not like why would I be with you?
He said sometimes he does not even know himself. When he is stressed he always wanna be alone. And being an ESFP I HATE to be alone.
And also recently he decided to do something I just cannot (or very very hard to) accept. He said he hope I can let him do what he wants this time. We had a big arguement but I know I cannot stop him. So it is really up to me if I can live with it.
I have lots of friends to chill with but nowdays most of them are either married for in a serious relationship. So sometimes I do get lonely and want to hangout with him more often.
I am fairly attractive and outgoing so it has never been a problem meeting guys. But I know my ITSJ truly cares about me and will always been there for me. I do like him alot (maybe I love him) and I don't want to break his heart.
I really wanna ask all you ISTJ guys how you guys approach relationships?