[Yardiff Bey]

perhaps running away from an ESFP??



@niss what an accurate description. How do you know me so well? :p

Just a female version of us menz.

[Sela]

Just a female version of us menz.

LMAO but not quite.

[WamphyriThrall]

Just a female version of us menz.

LMAO but not quite.

I've noticed thinking type females in general tend to have more of a *bite* than their male counterparts, and it's not just due to contrasts between them and their feeling sisters. Things like sarcasm, bluntness, and low tolerance to bs seem to be magnified several times over. But that's a good thing! I enjoy watching them tear into others, when warranted, like a herd of hungry sharks.

They also have a certain way with words that many males, especially thinking types, have a more difficult time acquiring, most likely due to being raised in radically different social environments. Whether it be putting something nicely, or cutting straight to the chase, the messages usually seems "clear" and with more people in mind. I'm going to hand this one to the heavy Female setting most have had to adapt to.

[niss]

@WamphyriThrall -

I agree. I know several ISTJ females, some of which are quite nurturing and careful of feelings in most situations, but turning into the sharks you mention when extreme circumstances warrant it. I attribute this to the patriarchal slant of society, putting the TJ female in a position of not readily fitting in with the feminine contingent, yet having to fight for respect in the more male dominated areas.

[niss]

perhaps running away from an ESFP??

niss, what an accurate description. How do you know me so well? :p

ISTJs - I noes dem.

I noes what ur thinking. Ur thinking about Caturday.

;)

[pinkrasputin]

You know, Isabel Briggs Meyers was a self-professed INFP. She was married 61 years to an ISTJ. In fact she claims he inspired her research on type.

It doesn't really seem she subscribed to MBTI relationship compatibility theories. She and her husband didn't share the same dominant function in opposite attitudes. Amazing that they lasted even 5 years

[rawr_sheila]

You know, Isabel Briggs Meyers was a self-professed INFP. She was married 61 years to an ISTJ. In fact she claims he inspired her research on type.

It doesn't really seem she subscribed to MBTI relationship compatibility theories. She and her husband didn't share the same dominant function in opposite attitudes. Amazing that they lasted even 5 years

What?!? Do you have the source for that? Lol.


I think a lot about mbti compatibility, even though any two types can work together. There are a couple of theories out there, but from my observation, the ISTJ-INFP pairing is very common. Why is that?? Half of the adult ISTJ women I know are married to INFPs!! I haven't found one married ESFP-ISTJ couple yet-still searching for that!! Maybe there will be discoveries of new personality theories in the future that will explain these compatibilities!! Why is one pairing more common than another, etc.

[pinkrasputin]

What?!? Do you have the source for that? Lol.

You can google tons of information on Isabel Briggs Myers but here is good old Wikipedia- Isabel Briggs Myers - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I think a lot about mbti compatibility, even though any two types can work together. There are a couple of theories out there, but from my observation, the ISTJ-INFP pairing is very common. Why is that?? Half of the adult ISTJ women I know are married to INFPs!! I haven't found one married ESFP-ISTJ couple yet-still searching for that!! Maybe there will be discoveries of new personality theories in the future that will explain these compatibilities!! Why is one pairing more common than another, etc.

You are really determined to find a magic key, aren't you? Sigh...

I'm not of that mindset. Why I Would Never Date Based on MBTI

Actually, that long winded article was just crap that fell out of my head one day when I was blogging. But after doing much more research, I have even more reason not date based on MBTI relationship theories. But I will leave all those details aside. I'll just say that in some ways I feel we are forcing a square peg into a round hole and over looking the obvious much of the time.

[niss]

What?!? Do you have the source for that? Lol.


I think a lot about mbti compatibility, even though any two types can work together. There are a couple of theories out there, but from my observation, the ISTJ-INFP pairing is very common. Why is that?? Half of the adult ISTJ women I know are married to INFPs!! I haven't found one married ESFP-ISTJ couple yet-still searching for that!! Maybe there will be discoveries of new personality theories in the future that will explain these compatibilities!! Why is one pairing more common than another, etc.

The ESFP/ISTJ pairing seems more common with female ISTJs IME.

[sparkles]

I have not been through all the pages so I apologize if these questions have been answered already.

1. Is it common for you to appear more like an xxFx in the early stages of a relationship you're excited about?

2. If you shift back into your xxTx style is that a sign of something going awry in the relationship, or could it be something more innocuous?

3. How can a partner tell when you need space, if you are willing to go along with a sense of duty? Say partner is wanting to be sure you have enough space but still wants to see you and says both of those things to you. If you opt to spend time with partner does that mean you didn't need space, or are you just going along with partner's wishes?

4. What are some ways to find out what will jump-start your affectionate behavior for someone who can be word-shy?

5. What is the best way to approach sensitive conversations, and at what stage in a relationship would you be comfortable having one of THOSE talks?