[Chris259]

My approach has been slightly more different lately. To be completely honest, the only reason it was dying down is because there is a different person. She's more interesting to me personally than the previous one, because we both enjoy similar activities 95% of the time.

While I'm trying to approach this carefully and not hastily, I am willing to let her know that I'm interested a lot faster than what I previously experienced waiting. Waiting instills uncertainty and doubt, and by the time I wanted to ask her out, I was too far in the 'friend zone,' and everytime I find time to hang out with her, its always very awkward.

Anyway, we all need to learn the harsh way from our mistakes and it allows us to act accordingly in the near future.

[hello317]

My approach has been slightly more different lately. To be completely honest, the only reason it was dying down is because there is a different person. She's more interesting to me personally than the previous one, because we both enjoy similar activities 95% of the time.

Good luck. Wish you all the best!

[MBTI Enthusiast]

Loss of structure is things like not exercising, not socialising, not eating well, not showering, not sleeping well. These are all the essential things that go when we get depressed. I found David Burns' classic book "Feeling Good" to be invaluable in this regard. One of my favourite exercises was one about the perceived enjoyment of socialising. You had to score how much you thought you would enjoy, say, visiting a friend. Then you went and did it, then scored how you actually felt. I almost always found that I got it badly wrong, and that taught me a lot.

Wow, this is incredibly useful information. Thanks!

I usually find myself enjoying social situations more than I thought I would beforehand, but I like this rating system. It gives me a way to specifically measure it -- very appealing to the ISTJ!

And I agree, taking care of myself usually does wonders in improving my outlook on life. Although, which came first, the chicken or the egg?