[mogeta]

I'm just curious
I'm a INFJ
I have a ISTJ friend whom I treasure very much
She's a great friend and I really would like her to know that
sadly I always have difficulty expressing how i feel
so how do I make her feel happy and treasured?

[Apollo Celestio]

Use your INFJ powers.
"You said you always liked "A" so I thought you might like it.."

[mogeta]

Use your INFJ powers.
"You said you always liked "A" so I thought you might like it.."

haha, sometimes I think my "powers" are immune to her
we both think SO DIFFERENTLY!
we love to play the guessing game about each other
the weird thing is that she always guesses correctly and Im always getting it wrong

[niss]

Peoples is different--and even ISTJs is peoples.

Zero in on her love language. It is likely to be quality time and or words of affirmation. This means that your little guessing game and you spending time with her is important to her. A card with heart felt expressed emotions can also be impacting.

Be real. ISTJs love real and can sense fake pretty readily.

[Darkfiremat]

maybe something like that
you are really important but i had no idea how to tell you or what to give you i even went on a forum to ask but they couldnt help so i want to tell you you are really important to me :D try crying a little at the end if you make her cry then jackpot XD (i was joking dont cry)

[Qadosh]

Peoples is different--and even ISTJs is peoples.

That's what the person who programmed you wants non-ISTJs to think. Don't fall for his robot lies.

Be real. ISTJs love real and can sense fake pretty readily.

I think this is good advice. I know for me it's true. I appreciate people that are honest, straight-forward, and genuine. Feeling 100% certain that a friend of mine does not have any hidden motives for being my friend puts my mind at ease because I'm constantly on the lookout for clues of this. If I feel certain that a person is a true friend I can begin to become more comfortable around them and maybe even divulge a few details about myself.

[curious0610]

Interesting post! I'm an INFJ and one of my closest friends is ISTJ. Sometimes I feel that I know her really well but other times I feel like it's the guessing game. Either way, she seems to understand that I really care about her and vice versa. I think this happened at different times for both of us where after prolonged effort on the part of the other (likewise private, reserved) individual, the other really got the fact that we were needed, wanted and cared for in the friendship.

And this ->"Feeling 100% certain that a friend of mine does not have any hidden motives for being my friend puts my mind at ease because I'm constantly on the lookout for clues of this. "

[Apollo Celestio]

Think of something they need or want and go for it.

[mogeta]

Peoples is different--and even ISTJs is peoples.

Zero in on her love language. It is likely to be quality time and or words of affirmation. This means that your little guessing game and you spending time with her is important to her. A card with heart felt expressed emotions can also be impacting.

Be real. ISTJs love real and can sense fake pretty readily.

haha~ ISTJs are people indeed.I've seen many sides of her. playful happy etc. but only saw her really down side once. JUST ONCE. haha, but she told me I was lucky. and I did certainly think i am lucky too
ah, I made a card for her birthday. when she said she appreciated it I was happy.I didn't think she would think much about it when I gave her the present

[mogeta]

maybe something like that
you are really important but i had no idea how to tell you or what to give you i even went on a forum to ask but they couldnt help so i want to tell you you are really important to me :D try crying a little at the end if you make her cry then jackpot XD (i was joking dont cry)

haha, yea. she'll probably freak out if i ever cried in front of her. I guess she will feel awkward and don't know what to do? that's why i usually refrain myself from showing too much emotions around her.