[ISTJ] How can I tell if an ISTJ is interested in me?

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    How can I tell if an ISTJ is interested in me?

    What are the "give-away" signs that an ISTJ is interested in someone? Whether it's in personal conversation, or just overall actions...?
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    I cant talk for everybody but if i have an interest in someone i usually dont show it because im not sure of the other person feeling and dont know if im gonna be rejected if i make a move but if im totaly sure you love me i will ask

    just remembered 2 thing i do sometime i look at the person more and i try to be with them too
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    ISTJs are probably the hardest to tell. I usually make an effort to make sure it is not noticeable.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Well, it's a bit difficult to do, but if you'll tell them that you are attracted to them and ask them if they are attracted to you, you'll have your answer.

    Otherwise, spend a little extra time around them, be warm and friendly so that they feel secure, and in a few days you'll know. If they continue to spend time around you, they like you. If we don't like someone, we tend to limit the time we spend in their presence.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    What Niss said plus a couple of things. I also tend to do extra things for the object of my interest, on a fairly regular basis, but I won't say anything about it, I'll wait to see if you notice it and how you react. And for me at least, that is something that continues into the relationship (should one develop or even if things remain platonic outwardly). An example of something I'd do is mow the yard for my bf (for whom the task is his least favorite chore) while he's not home.

    In my experience a lot of these gestures seem to go right over people's heads, and I can understand why. But that's how a lot of us ISTJs work.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Definitely in agreement with what others have said. If I postpone something I need to work on to just talk with a guy there is likely something there. The most awkward thing in the world for me is knowing a guy is interested in me who I really have nooo feelings for. Constant worry that I'll have be approached and have to express something that would only the make the conversation more awkward. However last semester I had a developing crush on one of my close friends and talked with another (ENFP) friend about it. His advice was "just tell him and see where it goes." Yeah...that was pretty much an impossibility, unless I saw more concrete evidence that he liked me as well. One reason is the traditional female mentality that it's the guy's job and I should keep my mouth shut until approached, but also because I was terrified of the can of worms I'd open up admitting liking a guy who was already a close friend. When I am attracted to someone it's not some confused "do I like them or not? I just don't know!" business. My problem is being open to dating someone I hadn't previously seen as someone I would date.

    With ISTJs you are pretty much going to have to be the person to say something first. At least for me, if I like you I'll admit it when approached. The fear of the unknown possibilities of admitting attraction first is...yeesh.

    But all of that aside, I don't have issue with showing subtle clues that I'm interested in someone. As fievre mentioned, I will go out of my way to do all sorts of things for the person, even little things. Spend extra time with them that I could have been getting other things done, helping them out just because, and listening to them rant about their constant fights with their girlfriend... Okay...being a little too specific with the last part, haha. But anyways, notice if ISTJs are putting in some extra effort with you and working to show they care in ways others may overlook.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    there probably not alot of ISTJ + ISTJ couple since we dont show it when we love another person XD

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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Quote Originally Posted by Qadosh View Post
    ISTJs are probably the hardest to tell. I usually make an effort to make sure it is not noticeable.
    Same here. I have a hypothesis though that you could probably force a reaction that would be discerning, with an "unexpected" event. I can't really put my finger on what sort of event it would take though.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I dated an ISTJ once we got together because I was interested in him and I asked him if he was hungry and wanted to get something to eat. If he says yes, if he talks to you and opens up, if he exchanges numbers with you he probably likes you at least enough to be intrigued. It's been my experience that introverts have a way of wanting to get away from people and saying No they are indifferent to as a general rule. The easiest way is to ask him to do something casual where you can talk or come up with some excuse to do something alone together (in a public place of course--safety first!). That way if he says No you don't have to be offended because you were just testing the waters anyway.
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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers

    Quote Originally Posted by marzipan01 View Post
    The easiest way is to ask him to do something casual where you can talk or come up with some excuse to do something alone together (in a public place of course--safety first!). That way if he says No you don't have to be offended because you were just testing the waters anyway.
    Good suggestion! Make sure it's not too crowded though **shivers**
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