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This is a discussion on What is an INFJ?! within the ISTJ Forum - The Duty Fulfillers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; Originally Posted by Valentina Mysterious + Depressive = sounds like me. "He makes decisions quickly and then later really evaluates ...
From this thread I can see that ISTJ's are great observers. I'm going to go run away and hide now because there are just some things I'd like to keep private I love intellectually stimulating conversations though so I may just poke my head in here from time to time if you all don't mind
I only have ever known 2 INFJs that I can think of. They were both on my triathlon team and it was funny because one of them really disliked me from the beginning (I think she was put off by my humor) and the other acted as though I was her best friend right when I met her. It took the first one a year to finally warm up to me.... anyways, I liked them both. They were pretty down to earth despite being an 'N'. They both had a tendency to talk a lot and sometimes I couldn't follow or I couldn't contribute to the conversation, but I liked them both. I thought they were both very interesting and they make whoever they are talking to feel interesting as well.
The truth is that the ISTJs in my life have wanted to love and understand me
but there is this barrier between us that we could never break through :(
So we have bumped heads over, and over, and over again.
I was curious to see if anyone has had trouble understanding an INFJ.
I would like to hear about misunderstandings/conflicts/struggles.
ah, I see. Well I do have to say that yes I did have trouble understanding the one INFJ that I knew well. I tend to take things at face value, but I felt as though she always meant something else behind what she said and I could never tell what it was and I didn't want to do the wrong thing, but I felt as though when I took what she said at face value that I felt as though I was doing something wrong. So in that case there was plenty of misunderstanding. Also, like I said, I never fully understood a lot of her long talks about certain ideas- I couldn't always follow or contribute so I felt like I wasn't doing my part to add to the conversation. She was very interesting, but I did feel like there were mixed signals and I couldn't always tell what she really wanted. This was friendship though and not romantic relationship so that may be different....
I know I love my ENFJ best friend. But I don't think I know any INFJs though. I suspect I would like/be attracted to their highly idealistic side. :)