[Malachi]

I'm an ENFJ and I'm wondering. Since one of my best friends is an ISFP.

[Sunfox]

My best friend is an ENFJ.

I love her like crazy, but we sometimes have a hard time, because she doesn't understand my need for privacy and alone time...she's always calling/texting/emailing me telling me to call her and that we need to hang out soon, etc. I love her company, but she's a lot more outgoing and talkative than me and often *blows me away* with her energy.
She also seems to almost *mother* me, and sometimes we both end up arguing about that. lol
I think she thinks I'm a lost, goalless, naive girl in need of direction and help in life and she is more than willing and able to provide that help (;

Other than that, she is awesome!!! VERY loving, caring, always looks out for me (her little sis), etc...:3

[Malachi]

Thank you @Sunfox We are kinda like each others gender opposites We are both guys. Best friends. And ones an ENFJ me and the other an ISFP.

[sherona]

This is a curious topic to me. I am an ENFJ that has been in a 4 year relationship with an INTJ that has been a complete and utter disaster. My boss gave us the personality test at work and when I realized that some of the issues were just basically personality clashes, it made me curious to know what personality type I supposedly would do well with. There were two, ISFP and INFP. INFP did not really seem to sound like someone I would mesh well with at all, but ISFP on the other hand looked a lot like my dream guy on paper. I am not one to bet the farm on things like this, but it did raise my curiosity. I'm not sure I know anyone, and I possibly have never met anyone with this personality. They sound to be quite shy, so possibly hard to ever meet in the first place. I am always attracted to an introvert. I was married 15 years to an ISTJ. It was rather harmonious, but I just didn't love him more than as a friend. The second marriage to the INTJ had the passion lacking from the other marriage, but I guess that S & that N made all the difference in the world because it was hell on wheels. Passion can be a double edged sword. I know what I need is a quiet yet strong guy that won't let me control him, but allows me to be myself and holding my kite string to keep me from floating off. It seems that some ENFJ's are whiny from what I've read, but I'm not one of those. I am very social, and my job is boost moral. I'm just curious how ISFP's really feel about the personality that is supposedly well suited for them.

[Wendixy]

I have no problem with them in general. I do not have any ENFJ close friends, but my mother is one.

Her Fe will go out of control at least twice a day. She is on menopause now, so that is a plus.

I'm still trying to figure out why is she so good at guilt tripping me into doing something for her. The main problem is that I want to be who I am while she wants me to be like her because she's part of the social "norm."

Aside from that, she's always worried about me because she think I'm too socially awkward to be living in this society. Every time I want to hang out with friends, she must ask all of their personal background (something I do not know well of!!!) and then decide if I can go with them -_-. I'm almost 20 and she still does this lol.

The problem with organizing... Let's just say, my messy room is enough to make her cry. By messy I mean having my notebooks on the floor and clothes on a chair.

[cyamitide]

ISFP-ENFJ are mirage relations. They are psychologically comforting and relaxing but it can be difficult to accomplish things together. Best for spending leisure time, chilling and talking about stuff, but it becomes difficult to get accomplish any work.

[Le9acyMuse]

My mom is also an ENFJ. I need to remove myself from thinking of her as my mother if I'm to comment on her as one ENFJ out of many, which I did recently when talking to her. I believe she's an Enneatype 3. She is quite insightful, being capable of giving incredible advice, but she is all up in her Fe. lol I like Fe, really. It's so in touch with a social nature and peace. It is when it contributes to undue criticism and mob mentalities that it makes my Fi roll in an abstract grave. I believe Fe isn't normally like that, similar to Fi becoming hyper-defensive/offensive.

If mom were my age, I'd think she were like no other I've ever met. I would and do greatly admire her poise and efficacy. Nice, lovely, true and generous with NO hidden agenda whatsoever. But it'd be on at the jungle gym if she tells me one more time that I look 'less likeable' for wearing shorts in the cold. My legs are resilient against low temperature. Bite me. lol

[Malachi]

@Le9acyMuse Hey I am also a 4w3. And what's socionics typing? And good reply thanks:)

[Le9acyMuse]

Thanks. Interesting thread, being my mom's the only ENFJ in my personal life. I personally don't have a good definition of Socionics. I've heard of it on this site and gave it a try. All I can say is that every Socionics type sorta corresponds to an MBTI type. ISFP in Socionics is SEI (social ethical introvert), but you won't necessarily be an SEI if you're ISFP. Or so I've heard. Socionics is like a different take on MBTI, basically.

[albino mallato]

my friend that ive known literally my whole life is an ENFJ. at least she tested as one. shes extremely outgoing, but shes somewhat of a nerd in her own way, shes actually really into chemistry, but she also is very creative. shes always drawing, sewing, writing, and stuff like that..also, she definitely does not give a shit about social norms.. she seems really different than what everyone is describing haha

but shes fucking amazing, i always have a good time with her, shes into the same stuff as me and everything..i can be myself around her..might be just cause we've known each other so long... but anyways, i like them