[revisionist]

First off, i love you guys. i don't want to put too much weight on MBTI, but honestly almost all of my favorite people in my life are ISFPs. you guys accept everyone by default, it's amazing. it makes me feel super judgmental for how nice you guys are, haha! but the thing is, you may be too nice. I have a close friend who is an ISFP, and i basically had a huge crush on her for 2 years without telling her. we go to different schools, so i finally got sick of running in circles in my head and i just sent her an email explaining everything. she was verrry receptive, told me many times how much it meant to her, told me i would always have her in my life, she cares deeply for me, all that jazz...
but i really don't know what to make of any of it because she is too.damn.NICE! she wouldn't tell me off even if that's what she wanted. it has now been a few months, and we still talk pretty regularly, but things seem to have settled back to normal with her. i can't tell what she wants from me, but i don't want to ask because i was expecting a little bit more honesty or at least straightforwardness from her replies to my email. i feel like she is only keeping our friendship as close as it is because she views me as being "needy" and feels pressured to keep me happy. i don't want that at all and i told her that! but again, she doesn't often say how she's really feeling...
i want to ask you ISFPs, especially females, how would you react to a situation like this. if the feelings were returned? if they weren't? i just want to be whatever she needs from me. i want to give her as much space as possible, but i don't want her to feel abandoned after i opened up so much to her (she's been hurt a lot in her life). i just don't know what to do, i thought the email would finally help me move on or spark some kind of mutual thing with her, but it's just made things more confusing :(.
sorry for venting, but i would love to hear a second opinion on this! thanks

[letsride]

i just sent her an email explaining everything. she was verrry receptive, told me many times how much it meant to her, told me i would always have her in my life, she cares deeply for me, all that jazz...

Sorry, I'm confused about this part, did the email specifically say that you were interested in a relationship, or moving things forward from being more than friends? If not, this may be where the confusion lies. I'm just not sure what you mean by "explaining everything". If a close friend told me that I mean a great deal to them, I would think that's great, but I wouldn't suspect that they wanted to be more than friends unless they specifically stated that.

If you could explain the email better, I may be able to help you out more :)

[Elovan]

Agreed, there's definitely room for a huge misunderstanding there depending on how it was worded. Also, it may or may not be an ISFP thing, but at least in my case, relationships tend to feel a lot like friendships, albeit an incredibly close one. Especially if her enneagram type is 9 like mine, she would value keeping peace and harmony between you more than airing any concerns or frustrations she has. We're often apt to just keep our negative thoughts to ourselves in order to not upset others. The best way to encourage her to talk more about her feelings is to very gently and slowly ask how she's doing every once in a while, trying not to push too hard, as that will just result in more withdrawing.

[revisionist]

Thanks for the replies. I think you both are right that this is a misunderstanding. my email basically i did not say i was looking to be in a relationship with her, cause being in different states i don't think it is a good time right now. i was really just feeling hopeless about the whole thing this morning, but i think posting that helped me organize my thoughts more. at this point im really just glad to have her as a friend, and I've recently been a lot more interested in meeting/pursuing girls at my college, something that was hard for me when i was comparing other girls to her. but after i told her how i felt for her, the way she has handled the whole thing really just made me realize i probably couldn't be in a relationship with her. i think she has trust issues, which i certainly do, so having 2 people like that a relationship will go no where... again thanks for the replies. sometimes i need to write my thoughts out so i can make sense of them, lol