I relate more to the T/F: men are T, women are F.Let me first get more clear on what I mean by masculine and feminine energy... It has come up again and again in books about men/women and about relationships.
-grows by challenge
-is about "more", and better
-wants to break through, conquer something
-focus more on work and mission
-not having to control, just letting things "be"
-more flowing, with emotion
-focus more on relationships
-grows with praise, compliments
Also in relationships, for there to be passion, there needs to be "polarity". So if you are a more masculine man, a feminine woman attracts you naturally (sexually). If you are a very feminine woman, a feminine man does not really attract you, not sexually at least.
Note that you can be a woman with a masculine essence, or a man with a more feminine essence. David Deida (author of "the way of the Superior Man) says that 90% of people he worked with have a definite preference, and that about 10% have a more balanced essence.
Me personally, I do have strong values and try to find and live my true mission, but also have this strong feeling side. So I'm more balanced, I think. Maybe that's why I am not that easily attracted to women that I meet.
What do you think is your own essence, more masculine or feminine? I'm just wondering what other ISFP's essence is, I've been thinking about this. And what preference have your (previous) relationship partners been?
EDIT: Well peoples, how could this be stereotypical? Isn't it so obvious that people have a natural preference? That there is a difference between Arnold Schwarzenegger and the hippie guy spreading love and hugging people? I'm not talking about what society thinks you "should" be, how you are "supposed" to act and be; I'm talking about REAL masculine and feminine ENERGY, your natural essence. Most men are naturally very masculine (Barack Obama, Muhammed Ali, as random examples) and some more feminine. It's like MBTI, it's not stereotypical, it juts is. Like, you can behave in a "stereotypical" male manner when you are a man, but on the inside really be naturally more feminine.
Like, my naturally very feminine friend who is just a flow of emotions and moods is very different from my Stoic, authoritative, strong, leading, black belt karate Sensei. There IS a natural difference, not just a "societal" difference.
@NekoNinja: "The only thing that I might be curious about is whether ISFPs are more dominant or submissive" -- Well that IS a masculine / feminine energy difference. That is what I'm talking about. It's not that a feminine woman can't be dominant. It is just that if she is in her natural state, she doesn't need to control or dominate anything, if she's got a strong man who can lead her. Also, a masculine male naturally will want be dominant, want to lead. Not from a society "I should be dominant because I am a man"-thing, but from his natural desire to lead and be dominant.
"ISFPs are generally too independent to really care if they are acting like what they are "supposed" to act like. Or thats my view anyways." - well... I don't care also how you "should" behave. But you're gonna behave in SOME way. How do you REALLY behave, because it is somewhere on the spectrum of masculine / feminine ENERGY (not masculine / feminine "what society thinks you should").
Alright... I am just a bit bothered people think I am trying to stereotype or box. You know, I am an ISFP also, I don't give much of a fuck what society thinks. I am just asking what is REAL within you. Those qualities aren't ALL feminine / masculine qualities, it was just to paint a clearer picture for you to answer my question with.
Following that, I consider myself to be more feminine than most men.