[estrella]

I took the MBTI years ago and came out as an ISTJ. Recently I looked over information about the different types and think I'm a combination of ISTJ and ISFJ. I have a friend who I'm convinced is an ISFP who I would love to date, but is taken. I often daydream about finding a single ISFP male to date, even though I know they're not all like my friend.



Would it be a good idea for an ISFJ/ISTJ and an ISFP to start dating? Has anybody ever tried this combination before? Any advice?

[Outcode]

There's no reason to not date an ISFP. Don't let anything like personality types get in the way of who you like
You'll find another single ISFP out there.

[ReuBurn]

Warning - he may find you boring. My ex-gf was an ISFJ

[letsride]

I would give it a try, at least, and see how it goes.

I think it has a lot more to do with the individuals' values, goals, and interests, rather than their personality type. Like Outcode said, don't let type hold you back!

[Indigo Aria]

I don't know that I would date an ISTJ if I knew that person's type before the fact. I get along quite well with ISTJ's, and ISFP + ISTJ might actually work if the ISFP wasn't as intense as me. I question like an NT, so that usually annoys SJ's. I'd say as long as you don't pressure the ISFP to adhere to "normal", you should be good to go.

Actually, I would date an ISTJ if I knew they wouldn't expect me to be "normal"

[dar.ling]

Hi, I'm new to this forum, registered a few hours ago. :-)

I would give it a try.

I don't want to influence you but just telling you of my experience with an ISFJ.

Please, no offence to ISFJs too. Its just my experience with one ISFJ.

I have one ISFJ friend. When we first got to know each other, on the surface we thought very similarly on many aspects of life.
But as time passed and we got to know more abt each other, I realized that we are completely different. COMPLETELY.
I'm more of an optimist, more friendly towards strangers as long as they don't SEEM crazy, I like to think people usually have good intentions, am cautious and will be suspicious of someone only with reason.
She on the other hand is extremely cynical (at least what I think) and has a negative outlook on life. It usually brings my spirits down when I'm with her. She also usually says "I don't give a f**k."
I really dislike it when people have this type of negative attitude.

Its probably just her.

She seems to get out the worse qualities in me.

I read abt 'Quasi-Identical Relations' on Socionics before we began to have real actual arguments. I didn't believe what Socionics said but looking back its true.
She and I have Quasi-Identical Relations. Great, grrrreat misunderstanding between both of us.
We argue about almost everything in a very passive aggressive manner but it lasts just a few minutes at a time.
I don't like to argue with anybody but she just seems to effortlessly get that argumentative ....what should I call it feeling(?) out of me.
I can understand WHY she is the way she is today, the things she went through but still.
She is just so negative about everything.
Its frustrating.

[ReuBurn]

I second that. Too many times I get the impression all she wants is a partner to place all her troubles and worries on and make it their responsibility. And she's just too... practical and direct. Not to mention worrying most of the time on frivolous things. I can't imagine lasting long with her.

[alicat82]

I am a female ISFP who is dating an ISTJ male. I don't know how it would differ from an ISTJ female and ISFP male relationship. But he is the love of my life so far. We balance eachother out. We have some communication issues we are working out. But we both are mature enough and love eachother enough to compromise in the relationship. This can create a close bond. I spoil him with love and he makes me feel secure. I support this pairing.

[Leeoflittlefaith]

There's plenty to admire in ISTJs. I'm not surprised however that there can be communication problems. Both types aren't exactly open people.

[Benja]

I would never want to date a girl with ISFJ or ISTJ traits to be honest. My mom is an ISFJ and my dad, an ISTJ, and they are both way too controlling and closed-minded. We get along mostly because I sacrifice my happiness for the greater harmony of the household, while I'm building up my savings working.