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This is a discussion on Would you be with someone that does not share your morals? within the ISFP Forum - The Artists forums, part of the SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators category; Originally Posted by firedell No-no maybe I didn't explain well, but he was saying he was flirting with other girls, ...
Last edited by Eyo; 08-18-2010 at 02:28 PM.
you realize that when he said that hes flirting with other girls to look good in front of his friends, it already says a lot about him?
hes obviously not being true to himself and he wants to come off as cool so he'd fit in with the rest of the crowd and I think thats ridiculous. My personal opinion to this is, you deserve much better but in the end of all this, its all entirely up to you.
I'd much rather prefer someone whos true to themselves and to me than someone who has to fake their way with their friends, because chances are, he will do the same to you if hes already done it to other people. Bottom line is, he's not a sincere person and he wont change.
Have you tried talking to him about it when he's sober?
If he's not willing to lay off the alcohol, I would get out of the situation asap. But again, it's just my opinion. To me, it just doesn't sound like he's a positive influence in your life, and what's the point of that?
This may sound redundant, but if this guy needs to pretend he's interested in other girls to be more of a "man" in his pals' eyes, he's not going to put you first in his life. His lame reaction to seeing you there confirms it. You could do better.
Morals are very important. There are some things that just 'need' to be similar in relationships, and if you ask me, morals is up there on the list. I'm married and I know (not sure if you are or not). But if something like that bothers you now..it will only be magnified as time goes on. Problems tend to get 'worse' over time, not better...only because when all the puppy love stuff fades away, you have to really like the 'core' person, because that is what's left. Morals is included in that core. I forsee you two arguing about this over and over... cause I know I would. That would be a deal breaker for me. Same with someone who smokes... or cheats.
My hubby and I have a lot of opposite interests and traits - but when it comes to the things that REALLY matter - we see eye to eye, and that is what makes our relationship function so well. (in my opinion). Also...I am a stickler for morals..because I have high morals myself. I wouldn't say I have high expectations, but the few things that I value, I REALLLY value...like honesty, fidelity..etc. (sorry for talking so much about myself! I always relate things to my own life when giving advice).
He shouldn't be "boasting" about other women... he should be talking about you.
i will not have an intimate relationship with someone who treats me like a fuckbuddy.
because i don't need a fuckbuddy-- i can get laid whenever i want.
if i'm going for an intimate relationship with someone they better be in it for love.
those are my only morals. how she treats others does not concern me.
in fact, i would prefer it if she was a total bitch to everyone else but me.