[firedell]

Have any of you been able to achieve this?



It is pretty easy with actions for myself, but with words, I just cannot get the courage to open up. I feel frustrated with myself. I know how I feel, and I want to share it, but doing it, is a different matter. I don't want my s/o to feel like I don't really care about them. I do so much.

Past experiences may not of helped, being 14 and in love and giving all of your soul into the relationship and being naïve, and then that person who says they love you breaks up with you. It's got to hurt, but surely this does to give my mind permission to act like such a coward. Maybe I need to bring some of that openness back, but I have no clue how.

[Thrifty Walrus]

I have never opened myself to anyone I think for fear of something like that happening. Do you think it was worth it?

[Indigo Aria]

the only way I ever express love is by giving my time to whoever it is I care for. And I know I must come off as incredibly selfish to some people.

but no, I can't just openly express how I feel toward someone. I've been wanting to tell my best friend how important he is to me for a very long time, but I just can't...

[RyRyMini]

Yikes. I'm not very good at this. I tend to express love through actions that aren't always seen as such by the other person.

I can say "I love you too" after it's said to me first..even if I don't mean it, I kind of feel like it's my queue, which feels uncomfortable. I've never been in that serious of a relationship, but I'd like to think that when I am I'll be able to express it first and mean it wholeheartedly.

[MegIN]

If I'm writing a message in a card, I have an easier time expressing my love and appreciation for those I care about. But I often express love through small, meaningful gifts or acts of service that somehow better the recipient's life. Funny enough, I believe my primary love language is physical touch. With a significant other, I can easily express love this way, but with others, hugs and such just feel like I'm imposing myself upon them.

[moon]

When I want to say how I feel I put it down on paper. Talking about my feelings, I become jumbled, scattered, if it is a conflict conversation then I get caught up in those emotions and frustrated. I can verbally express myself if I give myself time to think about what I want to say but even doing that is hard. The best way I've found for myself is to write it all out. I'm not a lengthy writer but I get my points across in brief notes. I have a harder time expressing negatives feelings verbally than I do happy ones, & I too am more comfortable giving affection through actions & physical touch.

[Kamajama]

This has been a sore subject with me for quite a long time.

I tend to show my love to someone by doing little things for them, like buying them food or going out of my way to get something for them.

[MilkyWay132]

When I want to say how I feel I put it down on paper. Talking about my feelings, I become jumbled, scattered, if it is a conflict conversation then I get caught up in those emotions and frustrated. I can verbally express myself if I give myself time to think about what I want to say but even doing that is hard. The best way I've found for myself is to write it all out. I'm not a lengthy writer but I get my points across in brief notes. I have a harder time expressing negatives feelings verbally than I do happy ones, & I too am more comfortable giving affection through actions & physical touch.

I'm the same way. I feel a lot more comfortable putting my feelings down on paper or expressing them through physical affection than talking about them.

[Darkfiremat]

sorry to barge in but im curious what happen if the other person take the first step and tell you that he loves you what happen then ?

[solitard]

the only way I ever express love is by giving my time to whoever it is I care for. And I know I must come off as incredibly selfish to some people.

but no, I can't just openly express how I feel toward someone. I've been wanting to tell my best friend how important he is to me for a very long time, but I just can't...

sorry for barging in, even though im an istp. does isfp really express their feelings through actions? i think im used to love isfp guys. he really is private and hard to get know. but, i love of how he can understand my feelings even though we doesn't even need to talk. that's the best things that i really loved about him.

i'm the one who likes him first, but, whenever i'm asking him whether he loves me or not, he won't answer, but he will do something verbally to express it. i'm kinda annoyed since i'm after a honest answer from him, since, it's not easy to open myself up to him and ask him that kind of questions. sigh. but, i still loves him, until now. hahah