[LittleOrange]

I'm wondering what is your take on relationships? Are you searching for the one, right person as a lifelong partner (I read it was an ISFP trait) or no? I always had this philosophy....searching for the right one, but when I started going to college I saw all this people jumping easily from one relationship to another and I started asking myself: Is there something wrong with me? Am I missing something? So, I ended up in a stupid relationship with a guy which I knew wasn't the right one, just to be "normal". Idk, I always tend to be very cautious and think it all through before I decide to be with someone. I take it very seriously. Now, I'm starting to think that I am missing out if I date the wrong people, I mean what's the point of it anyway? Just a waste of time. How do you approach relationships? Do you think it's wrong to wait for the right one?

[saibot]

You should always do what feels most natural and best for you, especially in romance and sexuality. Letting yourself get pressured into it will only hurt you. That being said, I know how hard it can be. And it is defninitely not wrong to wait for the "Right One". That being said, you should always try to keep in mind to actually give people a chance to show you whether they might be the "Right One", but that can be done without entering a relationship.

Also, if you have this problem try to imagine how many of the people you observe "jumping from relationship to relationship" actually do it because they are pressured into it themselves and then feel freed that you do not put up with that anymore.

[RedFraggle]

@LittleOrange nothing at all wrong with you. You seek what I seek. But! Sometimes we meet the one and we weren't ready for them at the time we met. I am pretty sure this just happened to me. I think they will boomerang around again. I am not interested in wasteful time spent with someone I am certain is not a match for me. I have dated two people and only admitted feelings for these two individuals. I think everyone has their own seeking styles.

[MNiS]

I'm wondering what is your take on relationships? Are you searching for the one, right person as a lifelong partner (I read it was an ISFP trait) or no? I always had this philosophy....searching for the right one, but when I started going to college I saw all this people jumping easily from one relationship to another and I started asking myself: Is there something wrong with me? Am I missing something? So, I ended up in a stupid relationship with a guy which I knew wasn't the right one, just to be "normal". Idk, I always tend to be very cautious and think it all through before I decide to be with someone. I take it very seriously. Now, I'm starting to think that I am missing out if I date the wrong people, I mean what's the point of it anyway? Just a waste of time. How do you approach relationships? Do you think it's wrong to wait for the right one?

You should do what feels most comfortable to you. Some people are content to wait for the right one to come along and don't mind staying single until if/when they meet that person. Most people however, end up settling with someone out of a fear of being alone. So you should look at what you want out of love/relationships and decide for yourself if you're willing to be promiscuous with your relationships or if you'd rather wait until you end up being with a guy you know won't be a "stupid relationship". :)

[LittleOrange]

Thanks everyone for the great answers! :) @RedFraggle: Yeah, this is exactly what I'm afraid of! That I'll meet the "right one" but wouldn't be ready for that...., but then again dating "wrong" people, doesn't seem like a reasonable alternative.....ah, relationships are so complicated.....you can't plan anything....

[saibot]

Thanks everyone for the great answers! :) @RedFraggle: Yeah, this is exactly what I'm afraid of! That I'll meet the "right one" but wouldn't be ready for that...., but then again dating "wrong" people, doesn't seem like a reasonable alternative.....ah, relationships are so complicated.....you can't plan anything....

I think if the right person for you comes along there is nothing to be "ready" about. Every new relationship is a new learning experience of its own, anyway.

[Benja]

I'm wondering what is your take on relationships? Are you searching for the one, right person as a lifelong partner (I read it was an ISFP trait) or no? I always had this philosophy....searching for the right one, but when I started going to college I saw all this people jumping easily from one relationship to another and I started asking myself: Is there something wrong with me? Am I missing something? So, I ended up in a stupid relationship with a guy which I knew wasn't the right one, just to be "normal". Idk, I always tend to be very cautious and think it all through before I decide to be with someone. I take it very seriously. Now, I'm starting to think that I am missing out if I date the wrong people, I mean what's the point of it anyway? Just a waste of time. How do you approach relationships? Do you think it's wrong to wait for the right one?

I've always been searching for the one, maybe not the lifelong one, but at least the right one for me at the time. This approach has basically kept me single forever lol, which doesn't bother me much oddly enough, but I do feel like I'm missing out at times. I should probably be less serious about it and just play around with people that I don't think are a good match more, but I would feel bad if I wasn't taking a relationship as seriously as my partner. Somehow I'd have to tell her that I didn't think she was the one, but that I simply wanted to explore her out of curiosity.

[Type B]

I've always been searching for the one, maybe not the lifelong one, but at least the right one for me at the time. This approach has basically kept me single forever lol, which doesn't bother me much oddly enough, but I do feel like I'm missing out at times. I should probably be less serious about it and just play around with people that I don't think are a good match more, but I would feel bad if I wasn't taking a relationship as seriously as my partner. Somehow I'd have to tell her that I didn't think she was the one, but that I simply wanted to explore her out of curiosity.

If you know someone isn't right for you, but you want to hang out with them (to whatever degree) because they spike your curiosity, be up front and tell them that the moment you decide that's the way you feel. Don't wait and "play around" with someone. That is usually known as "leading them on".

[Type B]

I'm wondering what is your take on relationships? Are you searching for the one, right person as a lifelong partner (I read it was an ISFP trait) or no? I always had this philosophy....searching for the right one, but when I started going to college I saw all this people jumping easily from one relationship to another and I started asking myself: Is there something wrong with me? Am I missing something? So, I ended up in a stupid relationship with a guy which I knew wasn't the right one, just to be "normal". Idk, I always tend to be very cautious and think it all through before I decide to be with someone. I take it very seriously. Now, I'm starting to think that I am missing out if I date the wrong people, I mean what's the point of it anyway? Just a waste of time. How do you approach relationships? Do you think it's wrong to wait for the right one?

No, it's not wrong to wait for "the one" if that's what you want.

If the right one comes along, and you're not "ready", you're setting yourself up for a broken heart. Sometimes, ending a relationship because you don't think you're "ready" is a big, stupid mistake. You don't have to get married, but you don't have to throw away a good thing either.

[LittleOrange]

Hmm....interesting! This playing around with people is pretty tricky. I tried that and it didn't work out. Maybe, if you want to do that you should seek people who also want to do that, so that there are no hard feelings. But, still I think it's pretty tricky. Also, there is one thing that I noticed about myself.....it seems that I'm looking for a boyfriend/best friend and it also seems that that relationship would be enough for me in a way that I don't really look for friends that much. Don't get me wrong, I really like to have friends, but it seems to me that the boyfriend/best friend relationships has a priority to me. It seems like I don't need much more people in my life. How about you ISFPs? Do you feel the same?