ISFP: Relationship Resolution

Here is the ISFP way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that ISFPs naturally show as they relate to others. If you are an ISFP let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an ISFP allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how ISFPs behave.



Myers-Briggs “Compatibility Test” Results - ISFP Personality Traits
• The ISFP will strongly desire to please mate and children
• The ISFP will not embrace routine, unless they think of it themselves and see how it helps family
• The ISFP will not conform and won’t expect mate and children to also
• ISFP may have difficulty communicating vocally
• ISFPs can be impulsive with a natural tendency to live in the moment…will want that in relationships
• The ISFP is normally very kind, liberal, bighearted with their mate and children
• The ISFP has a natural affinity for animals and small children
• ISFPs can be extremely sympathetic for others
• ISFPs will be very private and personal
• ISFPs can be very oriented to pleasure
• The ISFP is very responsive to sexual stimulation that appeals to all the senses
• ISFPs are very sensitive to their environment with highly developed senses

On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the ISFP approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.

ISFP Conflict Reactions Personality Traits
• ISFP may flee the conflict, they will be upset by it
• ISFP will easily see the practical but negative impact upon others
• ISFP will desire to find a harmonious solution to the problem
• ISFP will not take the most logical approach to finding the solution
• Will view “conflict” as a distasteful, uncomfortable part of life
• Will take a realistic, no-nonsense, in-the-moment approach to it…will be hurt by it
• ISFP under stress may be very critical of others as they work toward solution

ISFP Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits
• ISFP will naturally consider the feelings of others in conflict resolution activity
• ISFP will typically show great respect, kindness as they work toward resolution
• ISFP will try to satisfy all parties in their conflict resolution activity
• ISFP will tend to put the uncomfortable conflict resolution activity off

ISFP Likely Positive Solutions Will Be:
• Realistic, in-the now
• Harmonious to all involved
• Practical and pragmatic
• Feasible
• Well-organized
• Results-focused

ISFP Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities
• ISFP will probably quickly affirm someone else’s feelings and emotions in a conflict sometime to the ignoring of their own
• ISFP may overstate the effect of any hurt feelings they may have
• ISFP will many times make statements by asking questions instead
• ISFP will have difficulty seeing a solution to far in the future
• ISFPs may put it off if it feels too bad
• ISFP will probably take it too personally
• ISFPs may fail to logic things through enough
• ISFPs may frustrate others by appearing too indirect as they work toward conflict resolution

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• The ISFP will strongly desire to please mate
• The ISFP will not embrace routine, unless they think of it themselves and see how it helps family
• The ISFP will not conform and won’t expect mate to also
• ISFP may have difficulty communicating vocally
• ISFPs can be impulsive with a natural tendency to live in the moment…will want that in relationships
• The ISFP is normally very kind, liberal, bighearted with their mate
• The ISFP has a natural affinity for animals
• ISFPs can be extremely sympathetic for others
• ISFPs will be very private and personal
• ISFPs can be very oriented to pleasure
• The ISFP is very responsive to sexual stimulation that appeals to all the senses
• ISFPs are very sensitive to their environment with highly developed senses


ISFP Conflict Reactions Personality Traits
• ISFP may flee the conflict, they will be upset by it
• ISFP will easily see the practical but negative impact upon others
• ISFP will desire to find a harmonious solution to the problem
• ISFP will not take the most logical approach to finding the solution
• Will view “conflict” as a distasteful, uncomfortable part of life
• ISFP under stress may be very critical of others as they work toward solution


ISFP Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits
• ISFP will naturally consider the feelings of others in conflict resolution activity
• ISFP will typically show great respect, kindness as they work toward resolution
• ISFP will try to satisfy all parties in their conflict resolution activity
• ISFP will tend to put the uncomfortable conflict resolution activity off


ISFP Likely Positive Solutions Will Be:
• Realistic, in-the now
• Harmonious to all involved
• Practical and pragmatic
• Feasible


• ISFP may overstate the effect of any hurt feelings they may have
• ISFP will many times make statements by asking questions instead
• ISFPs may put it off if it feels too bad
• ISFP will probably take it too personally
• ISFPs may fail to logic things through enough
• ISFPs may frustrate others by appearing too indirect as they work toward conflict resolution

Most of this sounds like me.
Though sometimes I can have a temper and be high strung.