Simple as that^
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This is a discussion on what will ISFJ's do when they like somebody romantically? within the ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; Simple as that^...
Simple as that^
Depends on how old they are most likely and how healthy. At a younger age, I denied liking somebody and feared relationships when I liked someone. This is probably not an ISFJ thing though. It's more of an unhealthy, unrealistic, and negative value system from within that can be possessed by any type.
I guess first of all they'll start to be a bit more comfortable around you. They may even start to say jokes or share more of their life with you. They'll be willing to hang out when you ask them most of the time too. This is something this usually happens for me before I want to date someone, but this is kind of a typical thing to all types. It can be harder to tell if IXXX's like someone, but if they are responsive to what you're saying and asking maybe they do. Just look for body language and compare it with their natural personality. Some types are more affectionate than others, so perhaps if the ISFJ actively seeks you out or is responsive to your requests this can be an indicator. Not always though, sometimes we can have trouble saying no and haven't developed good boundaries. I still struggle with boundaries with people and developing healthy relationships.
I think usually we're more monogamous and I know I almost never consider dating someone who's already in a relationship. The cliche, "All is fair in love and war", doesn't make a chord with me. If one's in a relationship they should respect it and maintain or end it before going out with someone else. OPINION!
That's all true for me. I guess further down the line I very rarely say how I feel first. But I'll be waiting and ready for them to broach the subject or take it further. Although I've been told that I give myself away in my body language or facial expressions and so may flirt that way.
When I do say how I feel I feel like it's too obvious or too cliched.
So my answer is that I do nothing except for making myself very available to that person, waiting for the next step.
It's such a weird coincidence that I stumbled across this thread because I was just thinking about this yesterday. When I like somebody, that person will be on my mind a LOT and I find that whenever I see him or think about him, I'll start smiling unconsciously. That's kind of my first signal to myself that I'm falling for someone.
I read somewhere that ISFJs make good stalkers, and that's actually somewhat true of me ;) If I like somebody, I try to find out as much as possible about him and his backstory and his life, and I will probably spend a lot of time doing this. I'm constantly aware of what he's doing, and if he's in the room, I'm even more hyper-aware of exactly who he's talking to, what he's doing, what mood he's in.
I tend to be over-caring if I like somebody -- in the sense that I will always want to ensure that he's happy. If he's not, I will do everything in my power to make him happy. And even if the affection isn't mutual, I don't get incredibly upset or depressed, because I'm willing to sacrifice my happiness to make that person happy. I tend to become sort of motherly (which is awkward) in that sense.
sit around and bubble, hoping someone will notice
@wgvlvcrazy - lol, like, "Oh hey :) " kind of stuff... being extra nice. Its all kind of silly. Basically not taking any action and hoping the other person will make the first move so you arent thrust into an awkward situation.. But yeah being really nice and out going, comfortable are all good signs Id say.
I simply do nothing. I'm not the flirting type and I'm not good at expressing myself, so I just sit and wait. I'm open to that person, but I generally wait for them to make the first move. Coming from a background where I don't agree with certain things outside of marriage, I tend to play hard to get in an odd way because I have a hard time believing when someone just wants to get to know me and isn't planning something. I think I chicken out and try to brush them off, but I don't really mean it. If someone wants to be close to me they're going to have to be a pretty determined little bugger. lol.
It can be hard to stop sometimes. :) If disconnecting doesn't work (or isn't possible, if he's a co-worker), just give yourself a little pep talk and say to yourself, "I have to stop thinking about him. I need to focus on _________________. Stop thinking about him, and get back to work." I can't tell you HOW many times I did that...and the best part is, it actually worked.