[Aenima__]

...Well, in my experiences. I have a tendancy to "feel" a person out. I automatically think people have "motives" in a sense. So I truely dont trust this person til I know them better. Maybe... And I mean, Maybe at the time he said those things he was being overly emotional then maybe saw something he didnt approve of you and thought that he needs more time to get to know you. Hence the "lets take it slow" Maybe he thought he was getting in over his head with too much emotion...I tend to feel overly emotional to the point I think i really like someone then a few days later I didnt feel that way.. Kind of subsided. Im just throwing out opinions. I cant say for sure why he did what He did... But what I can say is him being introverted you have to open him up get him to say what hes feeling because he wont if you dont ask or be sincere enough to know.

[kexx]

Woah man. I've never done anything like that. The whole marriage and babies thing after like 3 months would have scared the fawk out of me. I dunno how old you guys are, but I'm 21 and I've only ever remotely thought about the kinda stuff twice. Both times I only kinda mentioned it in passing and said I felt like maybe eventually we could come to that point which is a big step for me cause I'm really afraid of making the wrong commitment. (My parent's were divorced and I don't want to go through that again.) I agree with many above posters. Love comes from truely understanding someone, which takes a lot of time. Honestly I'm still a bit put off by the whole babbies and marriage thing, but if you really care about him when you hang out and how you deal with problems will fall into place. If not, don't be afraid to end it because in the end you want to be in a relationship because it makes you happy, not to just be in a relationship.

[HandiAce]

Okay guys, I'm an ENFP chick who has recently found myself an Awesome ISFJ :) We've been together for a month & a half. But within the 2nd & 3rd weeks of the relationship, he kept saying how he was falling in love with me/loves me & how he could see hisself marrying me & having babies like Aaallll the time. He still says it every now & then, but he's not as enthusiastic about it as he was. The weekend before Valentine's day when I sent him a letter saying I felt the same way(Love you/kids/marriage) he said he was "overwhelmed" & "felt like things were moving too fast" :/ I was really thrown off about this & my feelings were really hurt, because I felt like.. He lead me on. Have you guys ever done this? Everything is okay now, because we discussed it. But now I'm just afriad of him hurting me & I'm scared. Have you guys done this? Can you tell me about why he did this & then felt that way? I'm just afraid of being hurt. Please help me :(

I have a push-pull relationship with long-term thoughts and how I feel at the present moment which applies to relationships. When I see that someone in particular potentially feels infatuation for me, IMMEDIATELY I begin envisioning myself with this person down the road; the marriage, having a family, living somewhere I'm not sure I want to live, what I might do with the person in my spare time, what I have to do or don't nee to do and so on now now that this person is going to enter my life. It's not so much romantic thoughts, but things convincing me "This WILL happen!" if I fall in love.