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This is a discussion on Elinor Dashwood: ISFJ? within the ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; I watched BBC's TV adaptation of Jane Austen's Sense and Sensibility last night. I REALLY regret not picking up the ...

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    Elinor Dashwood: ISFJ?

    I watched BBC's TV adaptation of Jane Austen's Sense and Sensibility last night. I REALLY regret not picking up the book, it's TONS better than Pride and Prejudice (which I found boring.)

    If you don't know the story, there are basically two sisters, practical Elinor Dashwood (Sense) and flighty Marianne (sensibility). Their mother is the second wife of Mr. Dashwood and they have another little sister named Margaret. When their father dies, he leaves his entire estate to the younger Mr. Henry Dashwood, the son of his first wife. Even though Henry promises to take care of his half-sisters, he is easily swayed by greed and his scheming wife, Fanny Ferrars. Mrs. Dashwood and her daughters are reduced to an impoverished state and forced to move to a tiny cottage.

    Why I think Elinor is an ISFJ (without revealing any spoilers!): Elinor takes it upon herself to be the pillar of strength for her family during their time of grief and turmoil. Her mother tends to be more emotional, like Marianne, so Elinor has to take charge in household matters at times. Due to the wonderful portrayal by the actress, you can really see that despite her calm and cool demanour, Elinor is an extremely passionate and emotional young lady. (The author describes her as being emotional, but being able to govern her feelings.) Most of the time, she's rather under appreciated, by her family, friends, and even the readers/audience. I'm sure most of us would prefer the volatile but more interesting Marianne at first. I certainly did. But later on, Elinor's qualities endeared to me.

    Elinor and Marianne are the classic Fe/Fi divide. Elinor is conventional and civil to everyone, even to the point of suffering in silence over her love for Edward. Marianne is very open with her feelings, and eskews all social conventions.



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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    I think you might be right. At least, I know I do identify with Elinor a lot (especially with the version played by Emma Thompson - so very very restrained and long suffering until it all comes spilling out in an angry rush when Marianne accuses her of being cold). The other Austen heroine I feel an affinity with is Anne Elliott from Persuasion who is similarly strong minded though overlooked and taken advantage of yet with this core of absolute steel. I mean, like many people I love Lizzie from Pride and Prejudice, she's so witty and clever, but I don't see any of myself in her. I admire her from a distance if that makes sense. But Elinor and Anne I can get inside them and at least partially understand them.
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    Quote Originally Posted by sts06 View Post
    I think you might be right. At least, I know I do identify with Elinor a lot (especially with the version played by Emma Thompson - so very very restrained and long suffering until it all comes spilling out in an angry rush when Marianne accuses her of being cold). The other Austen heroine I feel an affinity with is Anne Elliott from Persuasion who is similarly strong minded though overlooked and taken advantage of yet with this core of absolute steel. I mean, like many people I love Lizzie from Pride and Prejudice, she's so witty and clever, but I don't see any of myself in her. I admire her from a distance if that makes sense. But Elinor and Anne I can get inside them and at least partially understand them.
    Strange you would bring up Persuasion, because I saw a book compiled with both Persuasion and Sense & Sensibility.

    Yes, I do feel a similar affinity to Elinor, which I never had for any of Austen's heroines. I seriously wished I had picked up Sense and Sensibility before Pride and Prejudice. It would have made me a bigger fan of Austen back when I was a kid. There was a similar scene in the BBC adaptation, but Marianne didn't call her cold, she just said that Elinor must not have felt as much for Edward [as Marianne did for Willoughby]. In my head, I just went "Dammnnn girl, you have NO IDEA what you're talking about!" Elinor's love, to me, ran deeper and purer than Marianne's, which was clearly just infatuation.

    It's something we ISFJs have to deal with. We're so duty bound that we neglect our own feelings, leading other people to accuse us of being cold and unfeeling. People think we don't care enough, but in truth, we are consumed with emotion. We just don't show it as much as other Feelers.


 

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