[Mendi the ISFJ]

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[Stokholm]

Our thought process which makes us over-think everything and resist change our behavior or views on life even when we know it's good for us to adopt new and healthier perspectives. Can't tell you just how bad this is for me right now.

[ChanceyRose]

White Knight syndrome

It's wonderful that you're such great listeners and supportive and helpful but there comes a time when you need to realize that people are responsible for their own messes. Sometimes a little tough love is the most helpful thing you can do.

[Crumble]

When Fe decides to stick its fat nose in, making you CARE about others. My pet peeve is that I can't help looking after other people's emotions. I can't willingly hurt someone's feelings unless I'm in enough of a rage. I don't like being considerate because it's bloody exhausting but I can't help myself. And look how low my Fi is. Worst. Doormat. Ever. :/
That is what pisses me off about being an ISFJ.

[Jem11899]

My friends get really annoyed with me analyzing the past and brooding over what I could or should have done to make the situation better. I am so tired of doing it too. I just can't stop. ISFJs just tend to get worked up over small things and overthink things. I am working on it, but, its super hard to stop worrying about things that I can't change....

[Lost in Oblivion]

When they steal things from the INFJ forum...

[MCRTS]

LOL, I think a lot of us are pissed at ourselves. Me too.

My pet peeves of myself are:

-Too socially awkward
-Two words: Door. Mat.
- Overthinking things.
-Unwilling to take risks.

[downsowf]

1. This is my problem and it doesn't concern you(ISFJ).
2. Stop caring what that person said. Move on.
3. The world is not going to end tomorrow. Stop worrying and calm down.
4. Some people say things because they are assholes. Don't take everything to heart.
5. Scared after the sun goes down.
6. Awful drivers

[teddy564339]

1. This is my problem and it doesn't concern you(ISFJ).
2. Stop caring what that person said. Move on.
3. The world is not going to end tomorrow. Stop worrying and calm down.
4. Some people say things because they are assholes. Don't take everything to heart.

These four things are very true about me, especially when I'm at my worst. It takes a lot of work to work through them (especially because they're directly related to ISFJs' functions), but it's something I still try to work on.

The first one is due to Fe. Corralling Fe and keeping it from interfering in other people's affairs can be tough sometimes (just like it's tough for some Te users to keep their Te from interfering with others), but it's important for us to back off in many cases.

The second has to do with Si. It takes a lot of practice and self-discipline for us to let things go. For me, I have to forcefully find other things to think about.

The third is due to inferior Ne. The good thing about this one is that I've read useful tips in MBTI books about improving this. The best one for me is to use our Si to make up for our inferior Ne. The key thing is for us to focus on what we know is true and what we have evidence for rather than assuming conclusions that have no proven factual basis (because often we assume a more negative conclusion than what's actually happening). Still takes some self-discipline to overcome, but I find this easier to control than the first two.


The last one is the most frustrating...a combination of Si and Fe, I think. It's hard for me to not give people a chance and to stick with them. Accepting that some people are just stupid jackasses makes me feel better, but it can be tough to do.


So those are accurate, at least for me.

[Mendi the ISFJ]

When they steal things from the INFJ forum...

ha ha, nice