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This is a discussion on Do ISFJ's crave appreciation more than other types? within the ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers forums, part of the SJ's Temperament Forum- The Overseers category; Originally Posted by the crow I have to actually stop her, again and again, from moving in on what I ...
I can safely say I probably crave appreciation more than most.
But such a thing is unquantifiable in it's own essence, so I can't really say.
I feel awkward and unworthy of praise, but I crave it more than I crave air after swimming.
I do everything I can to help people in the hope they'll praise me, lifting the darkness and depression from my heart.
It is not a hassle to praise ISFJs, because they're worth it and don't go around fishing for compliments. So, it comes naturally.
Well, as TiNeSi kind of mentioned, I think all feeler types probably crave appreciation to some degree, at least more than thinker types. So that might not be much of a tell in terms of type.
What might be true, however, is that ISFJ's may be less likely to speak up about their desire for appreciation than other feelers. I think as SJ's, sometimes we're willing to suck it up and do our work, even if we don't get the appreciation we want...and we may not ask for it. It's possible that other feeling types may be less likely to do that. I don't know, it's hard to say.
I'm sort of a weird ISFJ, but appreciation is still really important to me. I really feel like I go out of my way for people I love and care about, which I like doing, but if they never seem to appreciate it or say thanks meaningfully every once in awhile I feel like they don't care back. I'm not very good at expressing myself through words so I do it through actions. Telling me they appreciate me or showing me they do is all I need.
Other than appreciation though I need to be intellectually challenged or be doing something creative. Otherwise I go crazy. @__@ I think I could go being unappreciated before someone takes my books and art away. I guess it makes me an unhealthy ISFJ, but I find myself being pretty cynical about people and just doing things and expecting no one to appreciate me. I don't want a lot of attention, just a meaningful thanks or someone to do something for me every once in awhile. :/
Also I find that too much praise makes me uncomfortable, so often times I ask people not to.
But when it isn't given anymore or very rarely from then on, I regret it and secretly wish they would acknowledge me.
It matters more to me from select people that I hold in high regard though than most others.
If they don't notice the things I'm doing for them, or praise everyone else but me, I become down and leave.
this is definitely the motivating factor as to why some isfjs might be overly competitive.... don't look at me :|
and perhaps why isfjs might be more or less inclined to be the passive-aggressive cashier... :D
anyway, if i could just find someone that could justly dispense appreciation for things i know i do well.. i'd bee all over them! it really is a motivating factor when someone takes notice and says something positive. it makes me just want to do whatever i'm doing that much better - to go a few more miles than the miles i've already gone!