[sharrkmaster]

There's already another older thread in the ENFJ forum, but I guess 'cause there aren't as many ENFJ's around, it doesn't get much love :(

I was wondering what you guys thought of an ISFJ/ENFJ compatibility.



More specifically, how does an ENFJ male go about woo-ing an ISFJ female? The stuff I've read seem to agree that I need to be patient and take it slow. Arrgghh, that is going to be so difficult for me at this point.

Also, she's super busy all the time with her schedule.. with work, school, random other things she does without me . My ENFJ desire to socialize with her and take her out to places is getting killed by her schedule!

Any advice would be much appreciated.

[Liminality]

If there's lots of health, and a sx 9ish or 2sh termperament involved I'm so there in theory. So I guess that's a definate initial thumbs up of the idea. The reality I've no experience of, and a future of cat lady life ahead, so past that I can't give you advice - if I did, it'd be the general E/I differences and stuff.

But if I were to land myself in a fictional world...

Sorry I don't have much to add.

[sharrkmaster]

Well I'm a 2 type... I'm not sure about her, though. Probably a 6ish, maybe.

And thanks at least for trying. XD

[Tori Bond]

I kinda already posted on the other thread about this, and I know they're both kinda old threads now, but since I'm trying to figure out the same question, I'll keep talking, and if you have any tips that an isfj girl could use for an enfj guy and you see my post maybe you could help me out too if you wanted?

Patience, yes. Patience is good. We don't like rushing into relationships. I personally like to be sure that the relationship is good and will last (at least, last for a long time) before I go out with anyone.
But the more I talk to and hang out with the person, the more of an opportunity I get to see their personality and figure out if I think starting a relationship is a good idea or not. The more a guy who's interested in me hangs out with me, the more I like them. So be friendly! :3
I have lots of trouble opening up to people, but the last guy I dated was very easygoing and really listened to me and showed he accepted me and cared about me and my thoughts/concerns. He wanted to hear and help, and he wouldn't tell anyone what I told him. I loved that.
You know the saying, do unto others? I try to treat everyone, especially the people I like, as best as I possibly can. Why? Because I hope that one day someone special will do the same for me.

Now, I don't know about the other isfj's, but as much as I value tradition, I love romantic surprises. I'm a dork who dreams about those fairytale fantasy moments. I guess my friends probably wouldn't think so, though. Its kind of a secret of mine. As long as the moment is well thought out by the other person and isn't embarrassing (which it might be if its in front of people I know well who would give me grief about it later) I think it's wonderful. And anyone who plans and carries out a super sweet romantic surprise must genuinely like the person they're doing it for, so I feel like its a way that person could really show me that their feeling for me are real.

But yeah, maybe that part's just me. I don't know.

As for her schedule.... hmm....... well, I always tried as hard as I could to find time to be with the last guy I was dating. He hardly ever had time for me though, so I know how hard it can be when the person you like has a super busy schedule. I would say start small. Find something that she likes to do that doesn't take much time. Isfj's like traditions, so maybe you can find something small to do with her that you can do every day, or week, or whatever works best for both of you. Then if that goes well, you can start adding more things.
Hope that helps. If you are curious about anything else, let me know and I'll try to help as best as I can. :3