Okay so I have few friends who are ISFJs and I am having trouble dealing with them sometimes. I noticed that one in particular likes to gossip A LOT about people who I don't know and about people I will never know, yet she still tells me all her drama as if I actually care, but I know that if I said that I didn't care it would be socially unacceptable to her and she would get mad at me. Another thing: Some of the ISFJs I know get annoyed at people who tag a long if they weren't 'invited'. I also noticed that she intentionally doesn't invite me to outings sometimes that I would normally be invited to (this is a recent thing, she used to not go anywhere without me). The only thing I can assume from this is that she wants to talk about me. I don't know what I did, the only thing I can think of is that I don't care enough about my appearance for her- she is really into clothes and fashion, My style is way more laid back and somewhat careless- but that doesn't seem fair for someone to talk about that behind someone's back.... anyways, it doesn't matter what it is. I am tired of this drama/gossip/talking behind my back crap and I want to end the friendship if this is going to continue. I know ISFJs who have done this to me and to other people I know: they would pretend to be their friend to someone's face and then talk crap about the the second they left the room. I see a pattern. What is it with SFJs and gossip? Why does this happen?
Also, recently she has been saying mean, rude, hurtful things to me but in a 'joking' manner (which she never used to do). I can't tell if she really is joking or if she is disguising the truth, but joking or truth, it usually hurts.