[XXXX]

I am curious as to what kinds of people ISFJ's are naturally drawn to.

Pretend as if you were at a party in which you did not know anyone except the host. You have to choose which kinds of people to interact with and get to know first. What would your ideal person look like, be having conversations with others about, etc?

[Trigun64]

I find your hypothetical ridiculous. I would never be at a party. Just kidding.

To answer your question though, I myself will generally search for a quite alternative female individuals or nerdy male individuals. However, I wouldn't really look for anyone usually, I am too introverted for that. If someone is being picked on, I will normally assess the situation, and if I deem necessary, will come to the aid of the person who is being bullied. I tend to talk to Asians about their culture, so I might talk to them. I have a knack for finding other very introverted people and getting slightly away from the festivities in order to not be overwhelmed by the sheer volume of people, as well as trying to included said shy other individual and make them feel a part of the group(even if we technically get a way from the group to do so). I would also probably annoyingly hover around the host, since they are the only person I know, or just go off by myself somewhere.

I know I am probably not the norm, so others will probably much more greatly answer your question for you.

[XXXX]

I find your hypothetical ridiculous. I would never be at a party. Just kidding.

I suppose the more appropriate word would have been "social gathering", so I apologize for that.

[Trigun64]

I suppose the more appropriate word would have been "social gathering", so I apologize for that.

No need to apologize for my failed sense of humor. Sorry.

[Seeker99]

I'm sorry, I really don't know how to answer this.

My broad, generic and useless answer is: "It depends on the individual."

Personally... I wouldn't be at said gathering if I didn't know anyone else. I don't seek people out. As horrible as this sounds I don't particularly enjoy meeting new people.

Ummm... Pointless post of the year award? :)

[Linnifae]

My ISFJ mom seems (based on the description of her exes) to usually be attracted to the INxP types. Which is of course why she ended up with a ISTJ As for her friends, they seem to be the ExFx types....if that helps any.

[XXXX]

My broad, generic and useless answer is: "It depends on the individual."

Personally... I wouldn't be at said gathering if I didn't know anyone else. I don't seek people out. As horrible as this sounds I don't particularly enjoy meeting new people.

I agree, and I am seeking every individual ISFJ's thoughts on this. Since I know that all people are different, even if they do have the same MBTI type.

Interesting...so, do you like to help people out? Do something for them that would make them happy?

[Seeker99]

Interesting...so, do you like to help people out? Do something for them that would make them happy?

Absolutely, more than anything! I'm not anti-social or anything, I just prefer to stick with people I know than seek out new ones. But anyone who wants to talk to me is more than welcome to, and I'll help them in any way I can.

[sts06]

I do tend to go to parties, for two reasons. First because I'm married to an E and so I go with him and second because if I'm invited I don't like to let people down. But if I'm somewhere where I only know the host I will either stick with them (and help them out in the kitchen or whatever so as not to look too clingy) or I'll find someone who looks equally (or more) awkward as me and start talking to them. I don't like initiating conversations with strangers but if I can see something to comment on that we can both talk about (like if there's a song on the stereo that seems familiar or they are standing looking at a book, or a piece of art or whatever) I will use that as a way in.

[Tucken]

I'm with seeker on this, but I'll give you my very own version!

First off I naturally try to avoid gatherings/parties like that. But this time I go to the gathering.

If I could and it was "appropriate" by my definitions I would stick to the host. Or I could seek out a place where I could be alone or find someone else who looked like a misfit. Someone who had something in common with myself, it's usually the misfit at gatherings. I think I'm looking for safety and comfort and most people are the opposite, making me feel nervous.

If I looked for someone it would be someone similar to myself, someone safe. The conversation could be about anything, really. I'd give it a few minutes, sometimes it clicks and sometimes it doesn't. The "click" is the important part not the conversation.

About conversations and topics, I think it's about how it's presented. If the person initiating a topic has integrity, confidence, grace, glow, drive. To make it interesting.

Ideal person would look like they needed my company.

Conclusion: Drawn to introverts and glowing people